Guest Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 Oh boy, this is a tough one. I'm not sure what to do. I dated my ex for about 1 year. She broke up with me a few months ago, but kept coming back to me. Finally broke it off for good beginning of the month. One day, I woke up and was inclined to think I had an STD (I'll spare the details). Went to the emergency clinic, and was told I did. Called my ex to ask her if she had been faithful and had had a checkup before we started dating (I had been NC). She said she had, but she's such a liar, I have no reason to believe her. Anyhow, I went to a specialist, had blood taken, and turns out the test was negative. I'm fine (thank goodness). Her Sister began calling me to find out the results. I didn't call her back b/c my ex would not talk to me while I was waiting for results and tell me the truth. Last call from ex was last Friday. Finally, this AM my ex calls and wants to know the results! So, 2 roads I can take: 1. Tell her I'm ok, and she need not worry. She's been such a *explicative* to me through this whole breakup, I figure she can go to the dr. herself. I'm in NC. Leave me alone. 2. Let her wonder. She'll be pissed, but she'll definitely get the message that she's out of my life. On the other hand, if there ever was a hope of reconcilliation, this would kill it for sure. So, what should I do? Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
waitingforlove Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 Hi, I saw that nobody has replied to you yet. Hopefully my thoughts might help a little bit ... I think the crucial thing you have to decide is whether you want to have any reconciliation with her or to leave the door open if she ever wants to come back to you. If you do, then I think you should reply to her, but keep it brief so that she would also get the message that you don't need her. The more she thinks you don't need her, the more she's going to miss you and to have to look inside herself to decide whether she still wants you. But if you don't want anything to do with her anyway, then I would say don't even bother to talk to her or tell her the results. That can be kind of a "revenge" in a way, haha, making her wonder if she has STD herself, haha!! So, what do you want? Good luck anyway!!
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 Health issues aren't something that should be used for childish revenge. You have to decide if you're going to be an adult and do the right thing, regardless of your intent for the relationship.
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