Pregnant and want him

[Guest]

I am five months pregnant by someone who had a long term girlfriend. While they were on a "break" he and I slept together and I got pregnant. Actually, I had dated him years ago and still had (have) feelings for him. By the time I found out I was pregnant he had actually started to try to work things out with his ex-girlfriend. Even after she found out I was pregnant, they still agreed to try to work things out. He has been supportive as far as my pregnancy, but has said that we cannot be together as he loves her. He has even let me stay at his house throughout my pregnancy (we sleep in different rooms). His girlfriend has been okay and doesn't call or even come by since she knows I'm there, but I'm sure they see each other and still talk to one another. I think that I have feelings for him and I can't help being jealous of his girl. I even asked him to break it off with her and to get rid of everything that reminds me of her that is in his house. I somehow thought that me being pregnant would help us rekindle what we had years ago. Instead, he still has her in his life. I don't know what to do.

[SoleMate]

I suggest you start trying to plan your life based on factors that you CAN control, not by hoping that you can pressure him into changing his feelings. You're going to have a baby on your hands, so better figure out where you're going to live and how you will support yourself.

[aktieb0cka]

I am five months pregnant by someone who had a long term girlfriend. While they were on a "break" he and I slept together and I got pregnant. Actually, I had dated him years ago and still had (have) feelings for him. By the time I found out I was pregnant he had actually started to try to work things out with his ex-girlfriend. Even after she found out I was pregnant, they still agreed to try to work things out. He has been supportive as far as my pregnancy, but has said that we cannot be together as he loves her. He has even let me stay at his house throughout my pregnancy (we sleep in different rooms). His girlfriend has been okay and doesn't call or even come by since she knows I'm there, but I'm sure they see each other and still talk to one another. I think that I have feelings for him and I can't help being jealous of his girl. I even asked him to break it off with her and to get rid of everything that reminds me of her that is in his house. I somehow thought that me being pregnant would help us rekindle what we had years ago. Instead, he still has her in his life. I don't know what to do.

I think that you should focus on your life and your baby’s life without him. If he chooses to leave her later on to be there with you guys, I would be a little more open to the situation, but that is something that you have to approach if that situation occurs. I would not be waiting for him though.

[RecordProducer]

I suggest you start trying to plan your life based on factors that you CAN control, not by hoping that you can pressure him into changing his feelings. You're going to have a baby on your hands, so better figure out where you're going to live and how you will support yourself.

I agree with this. But on the other hand, he did let you stay in his house and his GF doesn't even come over anymore. That's very interesting and unusual.

 

I'd say leave the feelings for him on aside for now - it's only a man - and concentrate on your baby. Be nice to him, don't demand anything since, according to his feelings for you, you're not in a position to demand much without the possibility to be thrown out of the house - PREGNANT.

 

Be nice and when the baby comes, enjoy it together. He might come around. I am not sure he doesn't have any feelings for you actually. A man doesn't just take a woman he doesn't love in his house, even if she is pregnant from him.

 

I also kinda don't doubt that he is still seeing the (ex) girlfriend. No woman would be with a guy who lives with his pregnant ex-lover and even be so considerate to not visit him!