Guest Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 Oh boy, this is a tough one. I'm not sure what to do. I dated my ex for about 1 year. She broke up with me a few months ago, but kept coming back to me. Finally broke it off for good beginning of the month. One day, I woke up and was inclined to think I had an STD (I'll spare the details). Went to the emergency clinic, and was told I did. Called my ex to ask her if she had been faithful and had had a checkup before we started dating (I had been NC). She said she had, but she's such a liar, I have no reason to believe her. Anyhow, I went to a specialist, had blood taken, and turns out the test was negative. I'm fine (thank goodness). Her Sister began calling me to find out the results. I didn't call her back b/c my ex would not talk to me while I was waiting for results and tell me the truth. Last call from ex was last Friday. Finally, this AM my ex calls and wants to know the results! So, 2 roads I can take: 1. Tell her I'm ok, and she need not worry. She's been such a *explicative* to me through this whole breakup, I figure she can go to the dr. herself. I'm in NC. Leave me alone. 2. Let her wonder. She'll be pissed, but she'll definitely get the message that she's out of my life. On the other hand, if there ever was a hope of reconcilliation, this would kill it for sure. So, what should I do? Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
riobikini Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 If you're hoping for reconciliation, and/or just want to be a decent sort of guy, -then tell her the results. But here are the risks you'll probably face with at least one of those options (the 'decent guy' thing): she'll be secretly relieved (for herself, obviously) -but because she's still the same old ex with the same old personality that caused you to refer to her in your post, using expletives- she will likely have a few choice words for you, after hearing what you have to say. If you choose this option, expect it, and just grin and bear it. Telling her the results is still just the right thing to do. -Rio
mental_traveller Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 I don't see any obligation to tell her. If she wants to know, she can get a test herself. You didn't agree to tell her the results, you are testing yourself not her, you're doing it for your own peace of mind not hers. Screw the bitch, let her stew! The right thing to do is tell her to get stuffed.
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