GB111 Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 After an extremely ugly break-up where my ex came back then left again no less than 4 times over 2.5 months (yes, I kept taking her back like an idiot), I have gone NC and am doing quite well in coping. Having said that, my curiosity does get the better of me. Ok, so my disclaimer is that I WOULD like her to come back to me, though I know I would not take her back. Strange, I know, but after what she did to me, it would credit me some self-esteem I lost during her games. So, immediately after leaving me, she started dating another man. That didn't go well, and every time they had a fight, she came back to me (I didn't really know it at the time). Now, she's with ANOTHER man whom I guess she's getting along with much better. Only know this because after all of her "I love you"/"I don't love you" games, she finally snapped one day and said "we will never be anything but friends, NEVER!". Sounds like I must have been stalking her, but I really wasn't... This was a sudden turn of events. Sister told me she was now with ANOTHER man, which explained the change. In any case, I'm curious. We broke up the day after Valentine's Day, so it's been about 3 months. In that time, she's already been with 2 men and really never alone for more than a week. Is this another rebound, is she lowering her standards, or just got lucky? I can't believe after a sometimes trying, but very close 1 year relationship she can just move on like this. I don't know how you meet, fall in love, and move on in such a brief time. Really beyond it now, but I am curious. The pain and shock is *mostly* gone. Sounds like she really can't bear to be alone...
MissTiss Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 I wonder the same thing myself, how people can just move on. But some people either never fully invest themselves in a relationship or either they are just uncaring a**h***s (or b!tches). It sounds to me that she doesn't know what she wants, and I would be willing to bet that she will come around again. Good you are doing so well with the NC thing and that you wouldn't have her, but they always come back. Especially those on again off again relationships...it's almost like a curse.
Recommended Posts