IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 What would you do? A dying loved one. In a coma. Chance of cardiac arrest. Nurse asks me if they should revive him if that were to happen. I thought about it for a while....a looooong while......I agreed to just let him go. Wanna know who I'm talking about? My grandfather. Not sure if any of you know..he was my best friend, my father when mine died. My only person I can talk to about thingd. The one who told me I was getting fat, or not eating enough. The one who told me my shoes we ugly and to change, The one who i lived with and took care of him for 2 years. I knew I coudn't live with him forever, so i moved on, after i taught him how to write checks and do his laundry. I talked to him yesterday...the day before that he was in Atlantic City, Now he's in a coma and everything is shutting down. I don't think I have ever loved and respected someone as much as him. He helped me so much and I can't believe he will be leaving me. I was his only grandaughter and he trested me like a princess. I might go into a dperession after this. He won't be walking me down the isle, nor see how happy I am on that day Sorry I'm Rambling. Here's to you Pop
vampress1 Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 I am soooo sorry!! I'm actually a little choked up here... My grandfather meant a lot to me too. He was pretty sick towards the end... cancer (pretty much everywhere) and parkinsons disease. He was a wonderful man! They say he never met a stranger. I run into people all the time that ask me if I'm related to ________. I proudly answer yes and listen to the stories of what a great friend he was and how proud he would be of me if he were still alive. I don't live in my hometown anymore, but everytime I go home I am astounded by my feelings of mourning. It's been 6 years and it's still hard. That's the down-side of loving so much i suppose! I will forever be saddened that grandfather never met my husband and will not know my future children. I only say this to assure you that I know how difficult this decision must be for you. I do not envy you... If it were I that had to make the DNR call for my grandfather, I would have opted not to recesitate... he lived a full and wonderful life, surrounded by family and friends. He was suffering and it broke my heart. My prayers are with you... I'm so sorry!
Guest Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 I just wanted you to know that I have been where you are and I understand what you are going through. I lost my grandmother recently and she raised me after my parents divorced. She was the only parent I have ever had and she made so many sacrifices to raise me. We were very poor and she worked hard to make sure I went on and got an education. I was the first in my family to ever attend college. She recently passed a few months back. It was very unexpected and I too had to make a decision. She acquired an extremely rare disease and the only choice she had to cure it was to be put on chemo. A month later, she passed. I know now, that her body wasn't strong enough for the meds and it is eventually what caused her body to shut down. To make matter worse, the ex gf who brought me to this site in the first place, after dumping me horribly last year, dumped me for the final time on the day I buried my grandmother. She told me that night, after stringing me along for 6 agonizing months, that she never wants to see me again... Those six months I spent shedding tears over this ex and wasting my time trying to get her back, could have been spent with the one person in the world who would never hurt or turn their back on me. My dear Granny... You will always be in my heart and I thank God everyday he sent you to me. My grandma passed away a week before I received my license to practice. I am in the health field. She always looked forward to the day she could call me Dr, and the day when she could hold my grandchildren in her arms. I too am sad she will not be here to do this, but I know she will be with me in spirit and you can rest assured your grandfather will be looking down on his little princess... I am sorry for rambling on, but it's been so long since I have posted here. I just wanted you to know that it does hurt and the pain really took it's toll on me, but it does get better with time. Know your grandpa was proud of you and remember that he knows you love him... You will be in my prayers.
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 23, 2006 Author Posted May 23, 2006 Thank hunny...thing is, I'm talking like he's already gone. In a way he is. If he pulls through, he'll be a vegetable, That's why i decided not to revive him.
littlekitty Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 IHNFC - I'm so sorry for you. It must hurt so much. I can't make you feel better, but know that my thoughts are with you. *Hugs*
vampress1 Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 Thank hunny...thing is, I'm talking like he's already gone. In a way he is. If he pulls through, he'll be a vegetable, That's why i decided not to revive him. I think you've made the right decision. Be strong!
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 23, 2006 Author Posted May 23, 2006 Thank Kitty, He's not gone yet...But I'm preparing myself
quankanne Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 I'm sorry to hear about your Pop, this must be incredibly hard to deal with on top of everyday goings-on. You and he are in my prayers, I ...
Mz. Pixie Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 I'm soooo sorry to hear about this! I was extremely close to my grandmother- she was all of the things you described your Pop as being. Making that decision is difficult and I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 23, 2006 Author Posted May 23, 2006 Luckily, the time hasn't come for them to have to revive him..but they said it will come. (due to all the tests their doing). I can honestly say I don't know what I'm going to do with myself. I know I'm not going to eat, sleep, function whatsoever. Can this be prevented? I'm alreday not eating.
Art_Critic Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 I'm so sorry you are going thru this.. ***Hugz*** Keep your BF close and lean on him when you need to ...
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