RichNZ Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 Does anybody have knowledge from those expensive ebooks online. I would purchase them, but me losing my job lined up with also losing the love of my life. I'm stuck and it sucks. I'm currently in no contact, she's with a new guy, her birthday is in 2 1/2 months and i don't know what i should do. I want her back so so badly. I had never been so happy with someone. Any suggestions from those that may have read the books.
Brittanyjean06 Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 Look I am sorry your going through this, I am going through the same thing, in the same boat as you but it has been a rough 9 months so far If one doesn't love you any more, than a book won't help you get her back, Thats so silly they made those books, they should be providing more books on mending a broken heart, than to put false hope it ones head on trying to get them back !!!! Start the Nc and try to make your self feel better, though I know what those begining break up days are like Im sure you feel like you'll never get better, but you do ..It's a part of life and the strugless you go through make you wiser Now if I could only give my self this advice I'd be set for life, but It's easier said than done!
catgirl1927 Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 The first thing you need to do is accept that she's gone. You're never going to heal until you come to terms with that.
Art_Critic Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 Save your money... There is no way to win her back.. She has decided to move on with her life without you.
Author RichNZ Posted May 23, 2006 Author Posted May 23, 2006 Its just that I've seen so many posts on how, people have used this stuff and it is working for them. Doing the no contact and then.... something. They say if they've loved you before they can def do it again. i'm just interested, coz ppl are saying they ahve used them and have worked. Has anybody out there tried them?
Art_Critic Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 You are missing the fact that she is with another guy... Ebooks can't make her come back under these conditions.. You need to give her time to miss you.. that is what NC is about.. 6 months min.
Brittanyjean06 Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 At the begining of my break up I obsssed over getting him back and googled that, than passed that phase and googled rebound relationships, Now I google " can one love again after heart break" I guess your at that stage of the begining of the break up , I meen you can always try but the best thing to do is Nc with her WHAT so ever Don't let her see your pain, but believe me about everyone in life goes through it, no one is lucky.
Author RichNZ Posted May 23, 2006 Author Posted May 23, 2006 Yeah, I undrstand the best thing is to pick up my life and make it good without her. And if I do see her again, to be the confident and successful person she fell in love with. I think alot of the problem was, when we met I was a big goal setter. Huge on my martial arts, was starting a photography business and really keen on it all. When i was with her, the martial arts faded as she took up alot of my time and I kinda lost interest. And obviously when starting abusiness the first 2-3 years u are supposed to struggle financially. She was talking about us moving in together next year when she finished uni and about the great life we would have, we often talked about travel etc. i decided this wasn't a good time to be starting business if this was what i wanted and needed to be financiall stable when she finished. So I desperately tried to find full time employment, this didn't go to well and i got quite down. She then turned around and said i didn't really know where i was going in life and that was a big thing as far as our break up was concerned. That made me really angry, coz I did know, but was going thru a difficult spot. Worse more, was changing things for her. Since learnt girls dont like that. Hinesight huh. This sucks.
lone56wolf Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 E books are written, first and foremost, to make somebody money. To do so, they create a catchy title and aim a lot of useless information at the vulnerable. If you are going to win her back, she has to have it in her mind that she wants to come back. Obviously, right now, she doesn't or she wouldn't be with someone else. Tomorrow is not yours to be seen, but for your own peace of mind, you're best to foresee it without her and get on with your life. Wolf
ATrain Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 Listen to Brittany, she is right. You have to accept that she is gone and begin to build yourself back up. Time will heal all wounds. What you need to do now is focus on yourself. Try to get out and do things that will make you feel good. As time goes on you will think of her less and begin to realize that there are a lot of opportunities open to you now. You just have to get over the heartache and then you'll begin to see what I'm talking about. Life goes on, you have to get over this. Try your best to focus all your energy on YOU and not on her. Thinking of her is USELESS. It will do nothing for you. Believe me, I know what you are going through,I was DEVASTATED when my GF an I broke up 3 months ago. But, I'm finally starting to realize that it's not the end of the world and that there is no reason why I can't be happy. Just trust me, it will get bettter. I'm proof of that........Good luck!!
Brittanyjean06 Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 I was still devastated at 3 months, But you know you start feeling better if you really don't feel like entering the site of loveshack.org, sadly you know your relapsing when your back to post atleast 20 threads! But you go up and you go down, It's a challenge, but as the previous posts says, there will be more opportunies for you! but believe me it takes a really long time, and if its your first time you really don't know what something is liek when you get over it ( like me) So good luck!
ronnieromance Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 Word. Even if you do get back together, relationships have a weird way of falling back into old patterns. It's kind of like trying to get the ass groove out of a seat cushion by fluffing it. Ain't gonna happen. The cahnces at second chance love are, IMO only margianally better. You should move on. Sorry. -R-
andyp6 Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 But you go up and you go down, It's a challenge, Just like brittanyJ says, uptimes and down times. For me last night was an uptime. Went out with some work colleagues..they knew only in general terms about my problems, got hopelessly drunk ended up crashing in a frinds spare room. Woke up this morning groggy but ok. I didn't think about my ex for about 5 hours. Thats me starting to move on. Today a little down but not as low as I have been. Yeh it sucks..I'm right there with you, keep it together, re-read ATrain's post. Andy
Diver012 Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 New poster here, but you have to stop and think about something... Do you really want someone back that wasn't willing to stick around and work things out? This person was truely the love of your life, up to this point... Next year you may meet someone who could be an even greater love of your life. I was recently dumped by someone I loved very much. One day she said she loved me. I got stood up that night, the next day she called me at work and ended it without reason. It hurts like hell I know. Worse pain I have ever felt. While she is running around having fun with someone else, I am chillin and dusting myself off. It sucks, its not fair. Its life. I am moving on... you should too. Why let someone who isnt even there anymore drag you down?
mullins Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 I am chillin and dusting myself off. I like that saying, wouldn't it be great if it were that easy.
sexyLMC Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 im so sorry your going through all this. i broke up with my bf yesturday.. it hurts like made but as i have already learnt the pain will go away!!! with the 1st bf when we split up i was so upset, i rang him all the time.. i even begged him to come back to me.. if someone doesnt want you then i know its hard to come to terms with but its one of lifes things. you may feel really bad right now like most of us do on here. i totally believe in fate.. you two broke up for a reason and i guess its hard to accept that maybe you two just wasnt meant to be.. the sooner you come to terms that it didnt work out.. maybe the sooner you can move on with your life.. I know it hurts but be strong!!!!!
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