Guest Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Well, you all do not know me but I need help. I think I am in love...but cannot have him. Let me explain... I have been married for 10 years to a guy everyone thinks is gorgeous and wonderful....yeah....but we have had major problems. I have always stood by him and thought I always would because of being married. I love him but have never been mushy mushy or goofy or "in love" with him. He was a reasonable choice for me. I met a guy about a year ago that caught my attention but I ignored it. Then about 3 and a half months ago, that same guy and I began spending a lot of time together on a project. There was a strong chemistry and physical attraction and connection. It was powerful and scary. I did not think I could truly feel like this ever in my life, but I did. Meanwhile, my husband and I were already talking about divorce and separation at this point. One evening after a couple of drinks, I saw this guy and we immediately clicked and he kissed me. It was awesome but I still did not do the deed. About a month later though and it had overcome us, we were now physically involved. The sex was not the greatest, actually kind of blaise but I do not care. It has gotten a little better each time. He is single, been married and divorced a couple of times and I am still married to my one. He suddenly feels guilty and says he can't do this but at about the same time his ex-girlfriend or ex-wife comes back into the picture for him. I felt so used and hurt but still can only think of him. Why? He says he needed closure from her and that she will never change and that it is a bad relationship. He does not call everyday throughout the day anymore....I miss him. I still see him and we have even been together a couple of times since she came back, I am weak, what can I say. My husband is hurting because he wants to work out but does not know about my infidelity. This guy is killing me because I cannot get him out of my head and how I fell so hard for him and believed everything he told me. Could he have been for real or was I truly played? I hate this feeling because I think of him all the time and want to be with him still.....
Bryanp Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Don't you think you should be honest with your husband? If the roles were reversed, wouldn't you want your husband to be honest with you? It is unfair to your husband who is working to rebuild your relationship and you refusing to be honest with him. He has a right to know.
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