What do you guys think?

[waitingforlove]

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about three months ago. At first, he only said he "needed some time." So I really thought time would bring him back ... now, I think it was just his way of ending it "smoothly" -- at least for him. He said he only wanted to be friends and thought that was the best. The first month after we broke up, he would call about once a week, and we had good chats. Then I said something that annoyed him, and he disappeared for a week. I apologized on the email and asked if we were still friends, and he wrote back and said, "ya we are still friends." So I waited a few days, and then called him. We had a good conversation, and I told him that I would be visiting the city where he lived. At first he said he would be busy and so he wasn't sure he could see me. I was disappointed but tried to hide it and said, "okay, I understand." The next day he emailed me and said he "didn't realize last night that it would be a good chance to see one another." So he asked about my agendas and wanted to see if we could meet up while I visited. I said I didn't want to get in the way of his plans, but he emailed back again saying that he would come get some coffee with me. I didn't write back. On the day I left for his city, he called in the morning and left a message confirming that he would come meet me. So we ended up seeing one another, and having a good time. When I was getting ready to leave, he said, "no, not now, come back." So I paused to see what he had to say. He said, "you know, we won't see each other for a while now .... it was great that today happened." He looked sad and then gave me a strong and firm hug. I just tried to hold myself up and said, "well, if you'd like to come for food or something, give me a call," then I turned away and left. He didn't call after I left. So I called him the following weekend. Again we had a nice talk, and I was getting really confused. So finally I asked him on email if he would give me another chance to get to know him better. He wrote back and said he still very much liked the idea of us being friends and thought that was the best.

 

Now I am really confused. How can it be so easy to become "friends" overnight?! I keep wondering if I would still have a chance, but I know that's not good for myself. I finally emailed him and told him last week that I would love to be friends with him again eventually, but right now it is too difficult for me. I said it would be nice to hear his updates from time to time, but if I don't write back, it's just that I don't want to give myself anymore false hopes. I said I would write him back eventually. He asked a common friend of ours whether he should stop contact with me or keep me posted, and then he answered his own question by saying that he would keep me posted. I don't know ... I am thinking that I would try to "disappear" for a few months first. What do you guys think? Do you think he's just confused? Do I still have a chance? Do you think by me disappearing, he might miss me at all? I'm thinking that maybe over the last three months while we have broken up, he still had me "in the background," and that didn't really give him a chance to miss me .... what do you think? Thank you in advance for your opinions!