SnapThat9 Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Ok, hello all and welcome to my first post. I'm writing today in a bit of a confused and hurt place. I'm trying to gain some insight into some of the reasoning behind the end of a great relationship that I was in. Here's the deal: For about the past 8 months, I've been dating this girl. I met her a little over a year ago and we quickly became close friends. Within a couple months the friendship (as they often do) grew into something more. We were perfect. I didn't think it was possible but we didn't have a single fight through our entire relationship. On top of that, we were pretty much attached at the hip. A day that we didn't see each other even if just for a little while was very rare. If I was without her the most common question asked of me by my friends was "Where's ---?" We were that couple that grossed out everyone else in he room with our cuddliness. We were always hanging on one another and laughing and/or wrestling with each other. To sum it up, everything was right about us and nothing was wrong. We were perfect. Until.. This past week she suddenly ended it. She tells me that this has happened with every relationship she's been in. Everything will just be going great when suddenly it will just end for her. For lack of a better term she loses intrest and just no longer wants to do it. We talked about it for quite awhile and could not come up with what this stems from. This is very hard on both of us because we both still care about each other very much and it upsets her greatly to be doing this to me. She's never told me a lie and we both want to remain friends so I can see no reason for her to tell me something other than what's truly going on. I'm having a lot of trouble with the friends thing though because I can't understand what brought an end to all this. Anyone have any idea where this could come from?
MadDog Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Basically, she's scared of commitment. She's scared of being hurt or she's insecure and she can't handle the thought of being happy, as paradoxical as it seems. There's nothing you can do for her except to not hold a grudge and let her live her life. I'd pull back on being friends though because it'll be hard for you. Just realize that there is nothing you can do for her--she's the only one who can solve her issues.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 She sounds like one of those people who gets off on the "high" of infatuation, and when that initial stage winds down they move on in search of that feeling again. That is why most relationships that start off that intense tend to be the ones that explode....one or both people are addicted to the infatuation stage. A slow burn is best.
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