collegegirly08 Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 hello there, well ive beendating my boyfriend for about 2 years now, but i feel like weve done everything, the whole movies and dinner does not really excite me as much anymore, another thing, i am the type of girl that likes to go out be out and about!..i wouldnt mind a lil club here and there,but with him ofcourse! but his the type of guy that is more chill, he just likes to be home watching a movie with me or dinner..and he is totally against clubs, he doesnt like going to clubs with a girlfriend,but he doenst go with his friends either, and obviously he wouldnt want me going to clubs with out him, so i dont know what to do, i would like to go to clubs more often, but i dotn want to cause any problem, i dont want to break up with him i love him to death i really do, we came to a point where we almsot broke up because he wanted me to enjoy my life do waht ever iw anted and then get back with him, id idnt like that not one bit, the way i see it is i sacrifice not going oout as much to be with him, then y cant he sacrifice and go out with me so that i have some fun, because i know he will have fun aswell,why cant we both sacrifice a lil of everything to make the relationship work!..so i dont kwno what to do or how to bring that subject again, as a matter of fact... he has told me lets go to a club, but i knwo he desnt like to that i dotn even feel like going anymore, like i have this feeling that i want to go so that i can hav that experience and so that i wont regret later in life but when the opportunity comes im just like ehhh..maybe some other time!..waht to do??
Pyro Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 hello there, well ive beendating my boyfriend for about 2 years now, but i feel like weve done everything, the whole movies and dinner does not really excite me as much anymore, another thing, i am the type of girl that likes to go out be out and about!..i wouldnt mind a lil club here and there,but with him ofcourse! but his the type of guy that is more chill, he just likes to be home watching a movie with me or dinner..and he is totally against clubs, he doesnt like going to clubs with a girlfriend,but he doenst go with his friends either, and obviously he wouldnt want me going to clubs with out him, so i dont know what to do, i would like to go to clubs more often, but i dotn want to cause any problem, i dont want to break up with him i love him to death i really do, we came to a point where we almsot broke up because he wanted me to enjoy my life do waht ever iw anted and then get back with him, id idnt like that not one bit, the way i see it is i sacrifice not going oout as much to be with him, then y cant he sacrifice and go out with me so that i have some fun, because i know he will have fun aswell,why cant we both sacrifice a lil of everything to make the relationship work!..so i dont kwno what to do or how to bring that subject again, as a matter of fact... he has told me lets go to a club, but i knwo he desnt like to that i dotn even feel like going anymore, like i have this feeling that i want to go so that i can hav that experience and so that i wont regret later in life but when the opportunity comes im just like ehhh..maybe some other time!..waht to do?? I am not much a club person either. I prefer bars, but my GF likes to do a little clubbing, so we will compromise and do both. Its all about compromising. After two years of being together, he should have no problem with you going off with your friends to the club, but I also think that he should be willing to take you clubbing, since you enjoy it. If you do what he wants to do a good portion of your time, then I believe that he owes it to you to do what you want.
allina Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 I think that creating fun memories together is something that keeps couples happy together. I'm not sure what is available in your area but you could try checking out art exhibits, live shows, hikes, the theater, comedy shows. That way you can enjoy more of a night life without always having to be at a club/bar. I think camping as a couple can be really fun too, it's chill and you get some one on one time without having to stay home. In the summer there are tons of outdoor festivals that are inexpensive and fun. Even if the activity turns out not to be your thing you can still enjoy the time spent and even laugh about it if you end up somewhere silly. And if you really wanna spice things up, there are many ways to do that as well
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