kjo314 Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Guys/Gals, I know it has been 6 months with little or no contact. I know it will never work out again. I know that us together is over...forever..and I want it to be over. But why can't I get the idea of us being together again out of my head, and why can't I get the idea of her dating someone else and it hurting me out of my head? I want it to end. I guess "the memory of the first love never fades away" unfortunately I would love togo back to the way I was before I met her. I didn't have a true love ever. I just enjoyed life. Now I alsways have this in the back of my head. I guess it only goes away when you meet someone else just as amazing or even more so than that first one. I don't know. I do know that she feels no need to talk to me even though she wants to be friends and even though I know i didn't do anything wrong I still question why it happened. She said she had problems "within" herself about me. I guess I don't know...I can't seem to get it all out of my head...any suggestions? Sorry to rant
jerbear Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Hi KJO, Been following alot of your posts in the past. It sometimes takes a trigger and the realization that the relationship is truely over with no reconciliation and both of you have moved on. There really is not much one can do to 100% remove memories. One can only replace those with newer memories. Not much can be done other than time, doing new things, and focusing on new jobs, hobbies or whatever.
Author kjo314 Posted May 22, 2006 Author Posted May 22, 2006 I do that...and I know that the trigger has passed...namely the one that put me in the "I don't ever want to date her again after what she did to me" mode. BUT....everything I do I can't help but think about how much better it would be with someone like she used to be by my side.
Brittanyjean06 Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 I'm going through the same thing as you Kjo, except it's been well about 9 months for me, but lately I have been having really bad set backs so now I feel like I did the first week ah. I think because their our first loves, It really hurts...I'm sure we will have more loves It just takes alot of time, sometimes you really do just have to come to a realization that this wasn't the relationship for you, and in most cases they really weren't. Some people say first loves are the hardest to get over, but sometimes I believe this could actually be a tad bit more harder. Now you gotta be strong, because it will take a new love for you to erase all those feelings you have for her thats what I believe, just let time wait its self out, it will take a while
jerbear Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 I still remember and have triggers of my "first love" and yes all the others upon asking about history knows who she is. They even know why I act certain ways and pretty open to love and every person to me gets a clean slate; i.e. low baggage. What I do is keep on saying, "oh well that is the past" conditions yourself to not dwell. BrittneyJean, to bad you are to young for me.
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