lastnovember Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 A few days ago my husband and I got into a big argumment and he told me to leave. I know is probably the best thing for the both of us to be apart because we argue so much and we are both unhappy. I wish things were the way they use to be when we first got married but it all seem to change after a year of being married perhaps our goals and desires changed and we have grown apart. I am so sad I wish I didn't exist. I feel so empty inside can't stop crying for the past few days. I don't know how i'm going to get through this. I just need some advice please.
scobro Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 sOIUNDS LIKE YOU NEED TO SEE A THERAPIST OR COUNCELLOR FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
In Sync Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 uh...why are you the one to leave? why doesn't he go. Before leaving your home see if this is the best logical move, seek advice from a counselor legal and therapist.
Author lastnovember Posted May 22, 2006 Author Posted May 22, 2006 It is not our place, I lived in his room in his mom's place. The thing is I don't think he wants to even conpromised with me. We are both young but I think he is not ready for marriage. He doesn't tell people he meets that he is married he doesn't wear his weeding band. I had found him looking for woman online in myspace. The last argument we had was about him going to a strip club. I asked him not to go that it wouldn't help our marriage but he got loud and angry at me. I told him i would stay that night at my brother's house so that we can both cool off but then he told me to take all my things and leave. I can believe he would end what we had for that. I don't know if he is even worth me crying over him.
Guest Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 It is not our place, I lived in his room in his mom's place. The thing is I don't think he wants to even conpromised with me. We are both young but I think he is not ready for marriage. He doesn't tell people he meets that he is married he doesn't wear his weeding band. I had found him looking for woman online in myspace. The last argument we had was about him going to a strip club. I asked him not to go that it wouldn't help our marriage but he got loud and angry at me. I told him i would stay that night at my brother's house so that we can both cool off but then he told me to take all my things and leave. I can believe he would end what we had for that. I don't know if he is even worth me crying over him. Have you suggested going to a couple's counselling. Apart from that, there is definitely issues of disrepect going on here and if he's checking out other women online...perhapss for your peace of mind leaving is best. It doesn't help if someone is loud and angry, that only shuts the other party down, cutting off communication. Perhaps time apart will allow you time to consider can your marriage be saved. Seek counselling from a marriage counselor and/or a spiritual person....a priest pr pastor or rabbi.
In Sync Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 It is not our place, I lived in his room in his mom's place. The thing is I don't think he wants to even conpromised with me. We are both young but I think he is not ready for marriage. He doesn't tell people he meets that he is married he doesn't wear his weeding band. I had found him looking for woman online in myspace. The last argument we had was about him going to a strip club. I asked him not to go that it wouldn't help our marriage but he got loud and angry at me. I told him i would stay that night at my brother's house so that we can both cool off but then he told me to take all my things and leave. I can believe he would end what we had for that. I don't know if he is even worth me crying over him. Have you suggested going to a couple's counselling. Apart from that, there is definitely issues of disrepect going on here and if he's checking out other women online...perhapss for your peace of mind leaving is best. It doesn't help if someone is loud and angry, that only shuts the other party down, cutting off communication. Perhaps time apart will allow you time to consider can your marriage be saved. Seek counselling from a marriage counselor and/or a spiritual person....a priest pr pastor or rabbi.
Author lastnovember Posted May 23, 2006 Author Posted May 23, 2006 I don't know that after all that's been said and done there is anything left to salvage. A marriage counselor sounds like a good idea. Do they really help? I haven't spoken to him since last week, I keep thinking he would call me and tell me he misses me just like I do. I'm afraid that if I try to talk to him he would chew up was left of me and spit it out again. I don't want to be hurt anymore but its hard to be alone.
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