woobabe Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 This is my story. Back in 2001 I started an online affair with someone on the internet. I know it was wrong but I just could not get my husband to see that my emotional needs were being neglected. My husband and I are from different parts of the state. He is from Virginia and I am from Philly. Well after we were married in 2000, things started going wrong. I was in philly and he was constantly working late working out and going to Virginia. When he wasn't traveling to Virginia, he was to tired to do anything. But he goes home alot. I don't go because I don't get along with his family. His mother in law is very mean and nasty towards me. Anyway, They never come to visit us or should I say him, but my concern is him on the road and having an accident. I get frustrated to find out that he seems to have a burst of energy when his family call and ask when you are coming home. He just say he is coming and goes. I started the online affair because I was bored and had nothing to do I was home alone and my emotional needs were being neglected. I started an online affair and got caught in 2003. I was not hiding it I left the emails in my end box and and when he asked I never really told him the reason. Then I he decided to forgive me and I then cut of my relationship with the person online. Then I did something else because I knew he was still snooping and going through my stuff well I really had not proof but I just decided to do a test to see if he was really actually trusting me I made up an email address at yahoo and sent an email to me from that email address and then responded to it and did that about 3 times back in June of 2005 and then I forgot about and he went to check my email in January of 2006 and that is when I knew he had saw it. I don't want my marriage to be over but one is we don't communicate he comes home and falls asleep and we don't talk and if we do talk he does not listen so I am at a lose. Please help me because he left friday and will be gone for a week and don't know when he is coming back but he is coming back. Please help me and tell me what I should do once he comes back and walks through that door. Very Desperate woman.
whichwayisup Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 Time to go to Marriage counselling. If you want to stay married to him then WORK HARD and stop taking the easy way out. TALK TO HIM and tell him how unhappy you are and that you're thinking of ending things if he doesn't start making an effort and putting you first. If you don't let him know then things cannot be fixed. Don't let him fall asleep and ignore you. Put your foot down and be tough about it. If you want your marriage over, then end it. Don't cheat on him anymore or "pretend" that you are, by testing him to see if he is checking up on you. Why should he trust you? You should be the one making things right with him, not the other way around. Maybe he gave up on you, I don't know. I will tell ya something, he probably KNOWS that you set up a trap for him. If he is a computer guy, then he will have figured this out. Your IP address would be the same...Meaning, sending yourself emails from your own computer, will show the SAME IP...which you two OWN.
Author woobabe Posted May 22, 2006 Author Posted May 22, 2006 Well I plan on doing that when he comes back home. I also have the issue of him always going to VA and his mother disrespecting me and he never do anything about it. I am also dealing with the fact that his family nevers comes up her and visit.
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