Sisty Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 I guess breakups are as difficult for the younger set as well as the senior set and I am a senior. I had not dated for 20 years..coming out of a bad marriage just felt safer,,,,fear of being hurt. Met a family member friend who has know him since childhood. I agreed to date him with family and friends pushing me. We were very compatiable but was more of a casual relationship..he had his home I had mine. We took many trips together..he wined, and dined and eventually bedded me to be blunt. He told me we were a couple, I was his significant other etc. We met each others families..traveled with his children and so forth...All was perfect. Had wonderful times. After our last trip to NM he told me he was impotent but that did not matter to me and I told him that. We still have a terrific time. Since coming back home we had not seen each other that much ( his children moved in with him temporarily waiting for their new home to get done.and they kept him busy)but still went to a few plays, dinner etc. He asked me out several times and then canceled. Then we would get together and everything seemed fine to me. I did not call or email him ..just once in awhile.(.he had told me to call him anytime.) The last time I saw him I asked him if we were still a couple or just friends and he said friends. Reason I asked him is that I felt things were slowing down..and then he said I like my independence (still trying to figure that one out...had hardly seen him for several months...LOL) but he liked me alot. Last thing he said to me that night was for me to pick out some plays I would like to see..as we loved going to plays and musicals. Mothers Day after I did not receive a call or email reply about whether he was coming to my BBQ or not...his friend told me that he did not want to see me anymore....I was to possesive and getting to close..and his grands were trying to set him up with some grandmas. Well I was stunned, hurt, confused and angry that I had to hear this second hand..that this man who I confided in and trusted and he in me...talk about everything and anything...could not talk to ME!!..So after the inital shock...had my cry, wanted to talk to him but did not...but what really got it me is the reason WHY he dumped me..I never felt in any way that I confined him or wanted a commitment from him...ever....so question is...do I NC which I have not thus far or he with me...or write him a letter and get if off my chest...just remind him of the things he said and did that led me to think that we were a couple but NOT in a committed relationship...I do not LOVE him..but LIKE him alot and I miss the companionship etc...some one told me that he may be sorry that he did this.. So....letter or not??? Any advice would be appreciated......Thanks !!
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