Nomis Talmad Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 I'm in a situation where there's a girl I've been crazy about for about 6 months, I dont normally get soppy like this but I'm completely head over heels in love with this girl. I wanted to tell her how I feel so many times but my problem is I hardly ever see her as i dont have her number or email address and I'm totally dependant on my best friend in order to see her, as she's very close to him and its only through him that i know her. Out in a big group I used to see her once a week and I was building up to asking the big question but then the meetings became more and more spaced out, could be 6/7 weeks in between seeing her and I began to get frustrated and this nagging feeling that my best friend had let me down in not getting her out more often. Last week (after a period of nearly 2 months without seeing her) I saw her, getting on really well with her then my world turned upside down as I saw her kissing her new boyfriend. I was in such a state I just ran out of the bar. I knew my chances of getting a moment to tell her were now zero so rather than bottling it up forever I decided to write her a letter telling her how i feel. Basically just telling her i loved her but wished her all the best and hoping she'd be happy with her new guy and hoping me and her could still be friends etc I asked my best friend to hand her this note and I've been sweating on hearing the reaction ever since but theres something quite wrong. When I ask him about her reaction to getting the letter he doesn't reply to my messages and he's completely stonewalling me. I've come to 2 possible explanations for that, either; a) she's totally freaked out by my letter and never wants to see me again. b) myfriend is lying to me and hasn't in fact given her the letter (it sounds really paranoid but other info from other friends seems to back this up), and I know he's lied to me before about her but i never confronted him about it. It was her birthday this weekend and I wasn't invited and I feel pretty s*** about that as I always entertained ideas of buying her something really nice for it. I've been suffering depression for the last 4 months and really needed my friends and i've got this horrible feeling i've lost a friend as well as the girl. I feel like a social leper simply because i wrote how i felt in a letter, I'm just wondering if anyone else has totally screwed things up by doing something like that? I'm supposed to see my friend tonight and I can see me having a nuclear scale row with him, I just needed to get this off my chest so I'm glad I discovered this forum. wish me luck!
random.girl Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 eesh.. very tough. obviously now you are probably looking on the love letter as a mistake... just give her her space. and your friend thats not talking to you... they're your friend, they're not supposed to do that. try to talk to him, but as for the girl.. dont make things worse then. and i bet that as soon as you meet a better girl, she'll fall out of your head completley. now if only this letter woudn't backfire, and actually show up as a reply.........
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