Having dreams about someone else

[Peaches]

I have been with my boyfriend for 16 months. I love him very much and don't know what I would do without him.

 

The thing is, I have been having these dreams about this guy I used to have a big thing for. I liked him in high school, but he just wanted to be friends. Then after we both graduated, he started calling me more and stuff. At a party where we were both drunk, we ended up kissing. A few months later, I had a boyfriend (not the one I am with now), and we were drunk at another party, and he told me that my current boyfriend didn't love me, but he did. It was like we took turns liking each other.

 

Anyways, a few weeks ago I had a dream about him coming home and I wasn't with my boyfriend anymore, and we got together. Last night, I had another dream about him. In it we were so close, and happy. I don't know what to think of these dreams.

 

I love my boyfriend. Is it normal to dream about other guys or past relationships?

 

Peaches

[Miss Mojo]

hi peaches,

 

it's normal to dream about anything. we don't have any control over what we dream, although sometimes i wish we did because i'd be dreaming about the lead singer of lifehouse instead of david hasselhof.

 

apparently, what we dream comes from our sub-conscious. i don't know a great deal about dreams, but i do believe that 'dream analysis' is a load of gobbledygook. i often find myself having dreams about something i might have looked at or encountered during the day, even though i hadn't given it any thought whatsoever after it occurred. reading into dreams, i feel, is just ridiculous. it signifies nada.

 

if you've been thinking about this other guy, then it's highly likely that's why you've dreamt about him. don't read into these dreams, because they were exactly that - JUST DREAMS.

 

i can understand that sometimes we might have a dream that really puts us off for a day. i had one of those dreams the other week and i couldn't stop thinking about it all day, mainly because it felt very real, which bothered me. but i was fine the day after that.

 

if you're very happy with your current boyfriend, which you seem to indicate, then you really have nothing to worry about. if you're dreaming about this guy because you're thinking about him a lot and you're not particularly happy with your current boyfriend, then maybe you need to evaluate where you are at right now in your life and if it's what you want.

 

but remember - there's nothing wrong with dreaming or thinking about an ex even if we're very happy with someone else now. ex's are a part of our lives and we all think of them from time to time because we don't forget them.

 

best wishes

[yes]

I dunna if this helps you but i dream of being with all kinds of people, from a waiter i liked at a restaurant to my gay friends... i dont attribute my meaning to it... dream-world is alll different one tip tho: dont tell yr bf about yr dreams. (my ex told me once he had a dream of kissing a common friend of our, and that did not please me too much)

 

Good luck! Stay in touch with your feeling while awake

I have been with my boyfriend for 16 months. I love him very much and don't know what I would do without him. The thing is, I have been having these dreams about this guy I used to have a big thing for. I liked him in high school, but he just wanted to be friends. Then after we both graduated, he started calling me more and stuff. At a party where we were both drunk, we ended up kissing. A few months later, I had a boyfriend (not the one I am with now), and we were drunk at another party, and he told me that my current boyfriend didn't love me, but he did. It was like we took turns liking each other. Anyways, a few weeks ago I had a dream about him coming home and I wasn't with my boyfriend anymore, and we got together. Last night, I had another dream about him. In it we were so close, and happy. I don't know what to think of these dreams. I love my boyfriend. Is it normal to dream about other guys or past relationships? Peaches

[Ed]

I would say it's normal to have dreams. But, based on the dreams I have had, there is nothing normal about dreams!

 

Most people don't have a lot of control over what they dream about. I personally don't put a lot of stock into what my idle mind comes up with while I am sleeping. The most credit I give to one of my dreams is that it may have been sparked by something I was thinking about before I fell asleep. To me, the rest of it is pure imagination.

 

Maybe before you went to sleep you were thinking about this guy or maybe you had been thinking about him, on and off, all day. I don't really know what to tell you about your conscious thoughts of him while you are awake.

 

If you put a lot of stock into what you dream about or you think your dreams may be trying to tell you something, then start thinking about being rich and famous or solving some world problem. It may not stop you from dreaming about this other guy, but it could do you and possibly the whole world a lot of good if you could achieve one those things.