Why Am I Single?

[PinkPippaCat]

Hi,

 

Need some advice on this one please as I am basically at my wits end over it. Am 25, average-looking (5'7", blonde, slim), reasonably intelligent, independent and have a great social life so why the hell am I single?

 

Has been 4 years now since I last had anyone that I could refer to as my "boyfriend" (and he was a total bastard). Most of the time it doesn't bother me but sometimes (like now) I just get frustrated by it. Guys do come on to me but they are all completely sleazy. "Nice" guys I do meet are normally friends or friends of friends but when it comes down to it, they never seem interested in anything more than sex regardless of whether I sleep with them straight away or after knowing them for months. For example, in my "dating" career I have:

• Dated a guy for weeks, slept with him & woke up to find him crying that his girlfriend that he lived with was going to find out
  
• Had a one-night stand with a friend of a friend who the following day said he wasn't looking for anything more as he "wasn't in a good place" and then starts dating my friend a week after
  
• Started seeing a friend of my ex, slept with him, never heard from him again (although grapevine says the ex - from 3 years before! - found out and went mental at him)

 

...and a string of other disasters. Just don't understand a) why when I do meet someone they always turn out to be bastards and b) why haven't I met anyone at all in nearly 2 years?!? I go out to bars, am outgoing etc. The only thing I can think of is that I don't have many female friends as I am a fairly big tomboy so when I go out, it is normally with a group of guys but if that is the problem, what do I do about it? Also, I have always had the mentality that you "take me as you find me" so pretty much all of the time, I am dressed in jeans, t-shirt & trainers but then wouldn't know how to "dress-up" or "make an effort" anyway! When I do go out, most important thing to me is having a good time so I chat with my friends, dance etc rather than stand around looking for a man. Come to think of it, not sure that I'd even know if a guy was coming on to me let alone how to react!

 

I am not the type to approach someone myself but would just like to have a decent guy around who is not going to use & abuse me; support me (been through a really bad period over last year as well and had to go through all that alone); be there for me etc. Can't remember what regular sex is like, nor someone kissing me when they are not drunk etc. Never been romanced or seduced either. Just depresses me that all my friends seem to go from relationship to relationship without trying and yet I never get anywhere!

 

What the hell can I do to break this cycle? Don't fancy internet dating, none of my friends have anyone they can set me up with, and just basically seem to be running out of options! Don't want to think I am past it at 25!

 

Cheers y'all!