Glamourbella Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 I have been going out with a guy who travels a lot internationally, lately when he goes on these trips he has not been contacting me. He has been gone for 7 days, and there has been no e-mail, and no phone calls when the least he could do is call me quickly or e-mail me quickly. When we are together everything is perfect. I know he is not trying to back away from me, because last time we together he was talking seriously about proposing to me when he got back, even down to what sort of rings I liked.... I know that what he is doing really does not have anything to do with how much likes me or not. It is an aspect of his personality. He told me has a tendency to disapper from the world when going through something stressful, but still there has to be a constructive way of dealing with this. I love this man, but I am not liking this aspect of his personality, and it something I want to tackle before I say " I do". This is a man who is generally very devoted and would like to get married and have children. What do you think would help in this situation? Talking with him, pre-marital counseling?
francis Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 You say that lately he does not contact you? what was the normal procedure while he was away in the past? would he contact you then? Men can sometimes be more pragmatic than women, that is, maybe he doesn't feel the 'need' to contact you, as stupid as that sounds to a woman. From my experience, men are able to compartmentalise things more than women. Perhaps in his mind he is thinking that he is away on business, that is what he is away to do, and he's doing it, not feeling sorry for himself or allowing his emotions to get in the way, to avoid feeling lonely or missing you too much. That is one perspective, going by what I have experienced in the past. As a girl, I would be upset by this too. I would want and expect my boyfriend to be in regular contact. Did you discuss communication before he left. Did he say he would call you and hasn't? Or did he just say that he'd let you know when he returns. If you have reached a level of closeness that you've discussed marriage, I would expect daily contact, if only to say goodnight before going to sleep.
Author Glamourbella Posted May 21, 2006 Author Posted May 21, 2006 Well right now, he is not away on business, about a month ago, there was a death in his family, and he is with his mom and sister and they are going to visit the family of his cousin who passed. He's in Austrailia.
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