XinTexas Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 Recap - we've been on and off again for 3 years. He's 48, I'm 43. Both signle parents raising teen boys. My question is should I continue to put up with.......... Him pressuring me for a committment when he knows I do not want to commit until our teenagers are out of high school. He knows I work full-time and am busy during the week (just like he is). He complains we don't spend enough time together but wants me to come to his house all the time (mainly just to have sex). We first broke up and were apart 4 months - got back together and it lasted 8 months. Then we broke up and were apart 8 months. We just reconciled again and it's been almost 3 months and now we're broken up again. WHY? Because we never resolve the issues we had to begin with and he thinks in the blink of an eye we should forget the past and dive back into a committed relationship. I'm sorry - he's said and done some things that have really hurt me. I can't just keep jumping back in and pretending there are no red flags. So what happens - he gets impatient and we fight. We usually go out to dinner on Saturday nights - we just started forming a bond and at dinner he starts raggin on me about how it's time to have sex. I said no - I don't trust him and the weekend before he couldn't even tell me when my birthday was or the company I worked at! He got mad - we got into a fight - he called me a bitch. He thinks I'm over reacting because he's just "that way" and not good with birthdays and says "You need to be more nurturing and want more lovin'". (I hate when he says "I need sum luvin.."). I'm full of resentment. He gets mad, we break up - he pulls the silent treatment then months later pops up wanting to reconcile because he's just POSITIVE that I'm the one for him. Am I a bitch or am I just plain stupid for tolerating this the past 3 years? Give it to me straight people.
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