pricillia Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 Hi everyone, I have been intimate with my mm since Nov of 05 with a two month break in between until he heard that I was starting to see someone else, he said that he is not ready to give me up. He knows how I feel about him and often does things to make me jealous trying to get a rise out of me. I work with him so we see eachother every day. I know that NC is what everyone is going to tell me and that is fine but how do you get over the feelings that you have for some one, There is someone new that I really like and enjoy and he tells me that he is not married and that he is not seeing anyone I hope that I can believe him. Why now when he knows that I am interested in someone else does he start everything all over again? The other day the MM said that he is starting to fall for me
scarletletter Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 This is just an observation and an opinion from the information that you gave...I am no expert on the subject. It really does appear that the mm is threatened by your possible relationship with someone else and is experiencing a little jealously. That might be good for him. Why not be with someone who cares about you that you are interested in ...and is single. I do know this much...dating a mm is extremely taxing on the nervous system. Maybe you should let him be jealous and do your own thing. It would be much more healthy for you.
Author pricillia Posted May 20, 2006 Author Posted May 20, 2006 Thanks scarlett letter I know being with him is not the best decision on my part, then I ask myself when did I start loosing my ability to make good decisions for myself? I don't know why I am so sucked in to the saga of it all? I have so many other things going on.
aktieb0cka Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 I agree with Scarlett. It seems that there is competition, so a man being a man, he doesn't like to lose, fights regardless if it is what he really wants or not. Like you said, he is trying to get a rise out of you. I think you should go the healthy route and pursue the single guy...besides you said you really like him.
scarletletter Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 Okay, so pretty much you have your answer. I think you knew it all along.
lovernotafighter Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 sounds like MM is pulling out the stops by telling you he is falling for you..I'm sure you both have had feelings for each other already or this wouldn't have lasted 7mos + . sounds like MM is a little to little to late..you know what to girl..have fun
Jessie61 Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 Hi everyone, I have been intimate with my mm since Nov of 05 with a two month break in between until he heard that I was starting to see someone else, he said that he is not ready to give me up. He knows how I feel about him and often does things to make me jealous trying to get a rise out of me. I work with him so we see eachother every day. I know that NC is what everyone is going to tell me and that is fine but how do you get over the feelings that you have for some one, There is someone new that I really like and enjoy and he tells me that he is not married and that he is not seeing anyone I hope that I can believe him. Why now when he knows that I am interested in someone else does he start everything all over again? The other day the MM said that he is starting to fall for me Pricillia, I think I replied to you before? I have seen this thing myself. Because nobody knows about my MM, there would be guys sniffing around all the time! When we were in NC, I did go out with one guy once, just to see what it was like. (As it happened, I realised that it was pointless and dishonest because my mind was elsewhere...) BUT this is when MM said that he had "decided to leave the W" for the first time. It was actually quite pathetic to see his manouvering to remove the threat that he thought this other guy was... Believe me, they will say (but not DO!!!) anything when they think you are moving away from them.. OK, in my case, I wasn't really interested in the guy that I went out with. But if you really like this guy as you say, why not ask MM to "take a long walk off a short pier" and give this single guy a chance? Yes, your MM is not going to like it, but so what? Can HE offer you anything better????
Author pricillia Posted May 21, 2006 Author Posted May 21, 2006 thanks everyone for you replys! Although I know what I have to do I still think about the MM all of the time. He said to me the other day that this will end sometime when either one of us get another job. I told him that it will be sooner then later for me and he got upset and said what is he going to do without me????? He also kept on saying that he is my man and I told him that it was not true. He is messing with my head big time. I have never gone on a real date with him and now he asked me on a date???
istilllovehim Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Run away, its hard for you and him....leave him be and let him make his decision. If you allow him to have you and her both, he will. Run!!!!!!
aktieb0cka Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 thanks everyone for you replys! Although I know what I have to do I still think about the MM all of the time. He said to me the other day that this will end sometime when either one of us get another job. I told him that it will be sooner then later for me and he got upset and said what is he going to do without me????? He also kept on saying that he is my man and I told him that it was not true. He is messing with my head big time. I have never gone on a real date with him and now he asked me on a date??? Think about the single guy...he will bring you on a real date.
Jessie61 Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 thanks everyone for you replys! Although I know what I have to do I still think about the MM all of the time. He said to me the other day that this will end sometime when either one of us get another job. I told him that it will be sooner then later for me and he got upset and said what is he going to do without me????? He also kept on saying that he is my man and I told him that it was not true. He is messing with my head big time. I have never gone on a real date with him and now he asked me on a date??? Pricillia, I have learnt (through sometimes BITTER experience.... ) that you should pay LESS attention to what MM says, and concentrate on what he DOES...
lolax Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 YOUR SO RIGHT BEING THE OTHER W ,SUCKS IVE BEEN WITH MY MM SINCE SEPTEMBER O5, WE HAVE A VERY STRONG FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER AND OUR AFFAIR IS VERY PASSIONATE WITH LODES OF LAUGHTER !! I GET ALOT OF ATTENTION FROM OTHER MALES AND MM TRIES TO HIDE THE FACT HES JEALOUS BUT HES NOT THAT CLEVER!! I WAS OUT WITH MY EX HUSBAND ON SATURDAY NIGHT AND MY MM WAS GUTTED...OH WELL U GO HOME TO YOUR W EVERY NIGHT!! I REALLY DO LOVE MY MM BUT I CAN NEVER SHOW IT TOO SCARED .......SO I KEEP MYSELF LOOKING GOOD AND WITH ALL THE MALE ATTENTION I GET....KEEPS HIM ON HIS TOES !! TREAT UN MEAN KEEP UN KEEN..........
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