Jester9983 Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 Hey, I was on this board awhile ago when my girlfreind and I broke up. I thought it was completely over and started moving on, not with other people, just doing things myself, and gradually started thinking about her less and less...Then one day, just like in a stupid fairy tale, she asks me out to lunch and tells me that she is over all the issues had before and she wants to get married...now we are discussing wedding plans, and who to have in a wedding party, lol...We have been together since and everything has been find. The moral here...and this is not false hope, just reality is that you can't change someone else. If they want to be with you they will let you know. You don't have to do anything but be yourself. And if they are stupid enough not to want you then you don't need them. If there were no major deal-breakers involved...(cheating, things like that), then maybe when time has passed people will see more clearly...but the key is to not thinking that they will... I don't know how I feel about NC...Interestingly I think staying friends with my ex is what helped us get back together. I wasn't a jerk to her and I wasn't ignoring her. I just did my own thing when I wanted to. I did date other people and that was fun, but I just wanted to be back with her. But I was totally prepared for that never happening. So all in all, when you least expect it, things might change. But the only thing you have control of is yourself. So go out and have fun and meet some new people and just do your best to make everyday your day! cya
BeHappy Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 I am hope but if not, i wish my ex will find happiness, even without me. =)
chocolate_boy Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 how long till she came back? Well he joined in Jan so not more than a couple of months. That's quite common, more-so for guys, but if your ex is gone more than a few months I'd say chances of them ever coming back get slimmer as time goes on.
westernxer Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 She's lucky you still had feelings for her after she overcame her issues. Let's hope she doesn't take advantage of this. Others aren't so lucky.
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