onegoal Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 Its me, the former Midwest guy. Whats up? Anyways you might remember me from post like these. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56885/ She never did go out with me of course. I still called her sometimes after that, and even guessed her email address because she told me as you might recall to stop calling her so I figured to email her would be better. So anyways that made her mad too. Anyways she said she would start calling the cops so I stopped talking to her. But on another board I made a post about her bashing her and I guess she somehow saw it because I said her name in it. Anyways I got a call from the cops across the river in Illinois. Lady cop told me to stop contacting her or they would send the police in my area to come speak with me and charges could have been pending. that really scared me. First going to the cops was bs because i know she made stuff up and I never threatend her, just wanted a date. Also since Im in MO it could have been the FBI that would have come to me:eek: Anyways I hate her now and never spoke to her again. It made me hurt she rejected me, but going to the cops saying I called her too much is over the line. Anyways where should I try and meet girls at? What should I change with my approach so they dont freak out?
Vertex Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 "She never did go out with me of course. I still called her sometimes after that, and even guessed her email address because she told me as you might recall to stop calling her so I figured to email her would be better." Well if she told you to stop calling then what did you expect her to say in an email? She was not interested in talking and apparently thought you called too much and let you know again she wasn't into you. GUESSING her email and sending her more stuff will only piss her off further and make you look stalkerish by using personal information she never wished to give you. "First going to the cops was bs because i know she made stuff up and I never threatend her, just wanted a date. " Threats, maybe not, but you still showed signs of being a stalker, or one that continually invaded her personal privacy as well as putting her real name online somewhere (generally not a safe thing to do, especially if it is not with their consent). In all honesty you should have left her alone. She called the cops on you because you were harassing her. "Anyways where should I try and meet girls at? What should I change with my approach so they dont freak out?" Join clubs, find people through your network of friends, take a class, go to social events, etc. Any place with people pretty much. As for your approach, if someone makes it clear they aren't interested, let them be and do not continue to persist because it will only drive them away.
NTB Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 i think you need to get some help dealing with rejection then you can try dating. if she told you stop calling then you should have just stopped and moved on
amerikajin Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 I'll make this short and sweet: leave her the f_ck alone. When a woman says she's not interested or just doesn't show any degree of interest in return, then MOVE ON!!! You're behavior is obsessive and it's obviously making her feel uncomfortable. She's not your property, she's not your soul mate or your destiny. She's some girl you know. Go find someone who's more interested in you, but keep in mind that no girl is going to be interested in someone who's so obsessive. Get a grip.
lance.dark Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 Contacting someone when they are not interested in being contacted is considered stalking, especially when you over do it and she out right says STOP or I will call the police. I'm not really sure how you missed that signal....
Guest Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 Contacting someone when they are not interested in being contacted is considered stalking, especially when you over do it and she out right says STOP or I will call the police. I'm not really sure how you missed that signal.... I really wanted to go out with her though
amerikajin Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 Well for future reference, understand that you are only half of any relationship. It doesn't matter if you wanted to go out with her, if she wanted you to leave her alone, then you need to leave her alone. She's not your property.
Pendawn Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 I really wanted to go out with her though So what? I want a ncie shiny new car, i can't just go and TAKE it! The fact that you think "i really wanted" is justification of any kind of behaviour is very worrying. what if you REALLy wnated to have sex with her, would it be okay to get on top of her even when she's saying no she doesn't wnat to? Please seek help for your problem with this.
Author onegoal Posted May 21, 2006 Author Posted May 21, 2006 So what? I want a ncie shiny new car, i can't just go and TAKE it! The fact that you think "i really wanted" is justification of any kind of behaviour is very worrying. what if you REALLy wnated to have sex with her, would it be okay to get on top of her even when she's saying no she doesn't wnat to? Please seek help for your problem with this. Like I said I dont talk to her anymore. Cause I dont want to police arresting me, or the FBI knocking on my door.
Pendawn Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 Like I said I dont talk to her anymore. Cause I dont want to police arresting me, or the FBI knocking on my door. That's fine but fear of the FBI shouldn't be your motivation. Respecting when someone doesn't want to have any communication with you, shoudl be.
fourfingers Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Where to meet girls hmmm I think in the park between some bushes would be a great place for you tbh... No seriously. You know there is a difference between being persistent and being annoying don't you? Being persistent is when you push to realize what you when you KNOW that's also what the other person wants... Example: Person A wants to go to a club, but is tired, not really in the party mood, needs to get up in the morning, and a whole bunch more reasons not to. Person B persuades person A by being persistent... Being annoying is just trying to persuade someone who had no interest whatsoever in your offer... Example: Person A just wants to go to sleep... person B keeps person A out of bed for another hour by whining to come to the club, while person A repeats "no, no, no, no, no"... You are annoying unfortunately. So try to work on that first.... then you go to any place you can think of. In case you haven't noticed yet, girls, much like guys, are pretty much everywhere ;-)
Tim'sAngel Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Where to meet girls hmmm I think in the park between some bushes would be a great place for you tbh... It sounds like he already does that!!
Tim'sAngel Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Where to meet girls hmmm I think in the park between some bushes would be a great place for you tbh... It sounds like he already does that!!
ronnieromance Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 I'm going to go out on a limb and say she probably didn't want an email after the "don't call". Maybe you shouldn't "want" a girlfriend so bad. You know they're not like pets. Try a dating site like webdate and make some friends. Take it slow and don't attatched to anyone in particulay. It's not healthy. Actually, learn the meaning of "healthy detatchment" and it'll serve you well. -R-
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