TrigunKenshin Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 Okay, this question is for the ladies here to answer. But the men here can also answer. Picture this okay? There you are minding your business taking notes in a college class you're taking. (oh yeah, you're also good looking and the type of woman that an average guy finds sexy). You pretty much know everyone in the class, their names for example. After class you are walking with this one guy from your class to the parking lot and talking along the way. Then all of a sudden, he asks you out. (now this guy is 100 times better looking than William Hung, but nevertheless has that william hung facial features) What is your reaction and what do you think when that guy says that, considering that you don't like the guy, but at the same time open minded to the idea because you're single? I'm asking because that's the situation I was in several months ago, but I didnt ask her out though, i just walked with her and talked with her to the parking lot.
Guitar Wizard Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 Okay, this question is for the ladies here to answer. But the men here can also answer. Picture this okay? There you are minding your business taking notes in a college class you're taking. (oh yeah, you're also good looking and the type of woman that an average guy finds sexy). You pretty much know everyone in the class, their names for example. After class you are walking with this one guy from your class to the parking lot and talking along the way. Then all of a sudden, he asks you out. (now this guy is 100 times better looking than William Hung, but nevertheless has that william hung facial features) What is your reaction and what do you think when that guy says that, considering that you don't like the guy, but at the same time open minded to the idea because you're single? I'm asking because that's the situation I was in several months ago, but I didnt ask her out though, i just walked with her and talked with her to the parking lot. That entire post just sounds like you regret a missed opportunity. Truth is, you never know what they are going to say, but you usually can get a general "feel" for their answer based on signals and such. If you don't "feel" this girl will say yes, and you really think she is out of your league then move on. But, still, you never truly know until you actually find the courage to ask. But, if I was a popular sexy girl, I'd have a boyfriend with a nice car and big muscles. Just sayin....
Guest Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 i think you should have just asked her! If a guy asked me out I'd be flattered, always, even if I wasn't interested. It's lovely to think/know that someone thinks your lovely/pretty/wanting to spend time with etc. If I was interested I'd say something like 'yeah absolutely, what did you have in mind, or want to go to the movies on Friday or I'm free next weekend why don't you call me and we'll organise something' If I was interested I'd say something like 'Thanks, I'm incredibly flattered but I really enjoy being friends with you or would rather be friends' or something along those lines... It's best to know I reckon in these situations, one way or the other and unfortuantely now you'll never know what her response was. Unless you still know her and still have the opportunity to ask her out. If you do... just go for it and ask her... nothing ventured nothing gained!
LexiB Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 for future reference, you never thow "william hung" into the equation when describing yourself, no matter how many times better looking you say you are than him! The damage has been done... but in answer to your question, I'm single now and no matter how long it'd been since my last date, if I'm not attracted to a guy there's no way I'm going out with him UNLESS I liked him a lot as a friend first. Girls tend to be more forgiving in the looks dept. than guys. Get in good w/ her and she should be alot more inclined to agree to at least a hang out after class... good luck
Alexandra-Girl Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 If you want to ask someone out, do it. Don't fear rejection. The more you do it, the easier it gets. As for the girl. Looks don't matter in college. I am a Grad student. I have met and seen many good looking students, who knew everyone in class as well. This says nothing of the girl or guy. The prettiest and the most handsome could be focused on their studies and just friendly. They could be single and looking for dates as well just the same as you. Others may stereotype them thinking they are already involved with someone of a *high quality* like they are when they aren't. Remember you can't succeed if you don't try. Hope this helps for next time you might see her. Good luck Alexandra
Author TrigunKenshin Posted May 26, 2006 Author Posted May 26, 2006 cool, thanks for the advice ya'll. Ya'll make very good points. She's gone now, I dont think I'll see her again, I graduated from college, she also graduated. But we live in the same town still, so maybe there's a chance, but yeah, I guess I'll push myself to the limits and give it a try. It's like jumping off a cliff w/o a parachute, it's difficult or near impossible for me to do. I guess that's the best analogy to my situation.
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