M.S.W.H.Y Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 Hi everyone, I'm kind of being curious about guys' shyness. There are many threats here about the shyness of guys when they like girls. And I do think that their shyness shows that they like those girls truly. So, can I conclude that if a guy could approach girls easily without hesitation or shyness, he might like those girls not so much or just want to have some fun? Are guys less shy when they have more experience in love?
Mary3 Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 Hi everyone, I'm kind of being curious about guys' shyness. There are many threats here about the shyness of guys when they like girls. And I do think that their shyness shows that they like those girls truly. So, can I conclude that if a guy could approach girls easily without hesitation or shyness, he might like those girls not so much or just want to have some fun? Are guys less shy when they have more experience in love? Shyness is based on sense of self and worrying that you won't be liked . You might feel like the person is going to reject you so you lack confidance. Experience helps. You sound like the girl who likes the shy guy ?
Spiderman Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 To give you a guys perspective - I'm personally quite a confident, strong, out-going type of person, over-confident some would say! However, I do still find some women intimidating, not all granted, just usually the hotties... There she is: that cute woman who’s exactly your type, standing over by the cheese dip laughing and talking with her friends. Oh, if only you had the nerve to approach her and introduce yourself–but what if you did, and ended up looking like a fool? Nah, it’s safer to just stay put. Whoa…what was that? Did she just look your way? Uh oh, quick, glance at your watch and pretend you weren’t checking her out. Better yet, beat a hasty retreat...... Most people find themselves feeling shy in social situations at some point in their lives, and it’s especially difficult for many men to feel comfortable approaching women. The trick is to learn how to do it anyway, despite your fears.... I'm quite a dab hand now, if I do say so myself, although it's of little use as I'm happilily settled down with my wonderfully amazing SO who I plan to Marry soon!! Good luck
Author M.S.W.H.Y Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 You sound like the girl who likes the shy guy ? I do prefer shy guys. Their shyness makes me feel that I am respected and liked. I also feel that it's safer for me to be with a shy guy because if a guy can approach me easily, he can approach other girls easily too. The problem is that I am a shy girl. Sometimes, it's difficult to approach each other when both the guy and the girl are shy.
SmoochieFace Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 Shy guys are generally regarded as *safe*. You're not gonna find too many of them playing the *playuh* role. Shy guys do great when they are with the right girl... however a big negative of being a shy guy is that he may be perceived as a *nice guy* and thus will be doomed in the eyes of most girls.
Spiderman Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 I do prefer shy guys. Their shyness makes me feel that I am respected and liked. This may be true to a certain extent... I also feel that it's safer for me to be with a shy guy because if a guy can approach me easily, he can approach other girls easily too. Not really fair to label all guys with this tag. If a guy readily approaches you, doesn't mean he will do it to all other girls, it may just be the case he really likes you and does not want to miss the opportunity of meeting such a wonderful girl. He'll soon show his true colours if he is in-fact a snake!
Author M.S.W.H.Y Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 Not really fair to label all guys with this tag. If a guy readily approaches you, doesn't mean he will do it to all other girls, it may just be the case he really likes you and does not want to miss the opportunity of meeting such a wonderful girl. He'll soon show his true colours if he is in-fact a snake! I don't mean that guys who can approach girls easily are bad. And I think the bold, confident guys and shy guys have their own good points and bad points in girls' eyes. I had an experience with a shy guy in HS who didn't approach me even though I showed him my interest. He just told his close friend about his regret of missing the opportunity after our graduation. I also had an experience with a nice, confident guy in grad school who asked me go out with him at the very first time we talked. But then I found out he already had a girlfriend. In both cases, I was the one who felt disappointed.
Author M.S.W.H.Y Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 Mary3, Would you like to chat with me? [email protected]
SuperMonk Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 You sound like the girl who likes the shy guy ? I do prefer shy guys. Their shyness makes me feel that I am respected and liked. I also feel that it's safer for me to be with a shy guy because if a guy can approach me easily, he can approach other girls easily too. The problem is that I am a shy girl. Sometimes, it's difficult to approach each other when both the guy and the girl are shy. lol, that's your reasoning why you like shy guys cause they can't approach other girls. What makes you think he would not approach you in the first place or you didn't do it to him. Girls have an advantage in the dating game, why should WE MEN have to give you too much credit in that area. Yeah you want a little boy so you can whip around, yeah I see how you are.
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