Guest Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Last year I bumped into my ex gf of 5 years. I have not seen her in 21 years. We did not talk or make eye contact we politely avoided one another. I was literaly terrified to face her at that moment. I was afaid of how either of us would react. I pointed her out to my wife. My wife told me my face was changing color. I was still very much in love with my ex when we broke up. The break up was her decision not mine, but it was clear she didnt want me anymore so I left and never looked back. I missed her very much and was very hurt. I was with my wife of 18 years. She was with her husband of 19 years. Since this encounter I have been unable to stop thinking about her and when we were together. I have had numerous dreams of her. I have thought about contacting her and discussed this with my wife. My wife became very upset at the thought of this. I keeping thinking about what happened to end our relationship of 5 years and cant believe we seperated. I guess I just dont remember what went wrong. My wife and I do have a happy marriage. I do not have intentions of getting back with my ex, I would just like to talk with her and see how she is doing. Catch up so to speak. Maybe via e-mail or mail. I just cant stop thinking about her.
Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 Why reach out to someone who hurt you so much, why give her any courtesy?
GB111 Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 You ought to ask yourself what you hope to gain by speaking with her. Not sure I understand as it sounds like you're still a bit hung up over her. If you're obsessing and dreaming about her all the time, you clearly still harbor some desire to be with her. It was a fluke. You're both in committed relationships. Don't lose a good wife over a curiosity.
gfto Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 I pointed her out to my wife. Bad idea I have thought about contacting her and discussed this with my wife. Unbelievable. That's one of the biggest relationship mistakes I've heard in a while. My wife became very upset at the thought of this. NO! You're kidding!
Curmudgeon Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 And if your wife came across a former boyfriend and lover of five years and wanted to contact him and begin a dialog because she still had feelings for him you'd be OK with that, right? I can't believe you even thought it, much less mentioned it.
riobikini Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 Guest, you are living proof, that even with all the good advice, all the experiential knowledge offered, and all the deep wells of compassionate good-will directed towards the well-being of a stranger in need, *why* it still remains possible that, in this particular forum, there are those who will never heed good advice, misinterperet it, or purposely test it, and continue stubbornly onward, (to the exasperation of those generously offering help) to meet with disaster in whatever lies ahead of them. Even to their own, inevitable injury. Keep your self-respect. Keep your sanity. Keep your marriage. ***Choose to 'get over it' , once and for all.*** -Rio
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