outsidearkie Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 When I started out in my relationship, it went well. I was excited to see my girlfriend every day, and she was excited to see me. We've been going out for more than 7 months, and it's not the same as it used to be. We've allways argued because we're both hard headed, but we've been argueing quite a bit more lately. My girlfriend likes to play "games" to try to get more attention, why I have no idea. Hell, I'm going to college 9 hours away from my family and I've stayed back this summer to be with her. We've talked about marriage, and kids for a while. I love her, but there are alot of things that aren't right still. We have sex and she's even had a miscariage with my kid. We've been through alot needless to say. I don't quite feel what I used to for her though, and she knows it. If I can make the relationship work out, then I would love to. Right now It's going steady. I don't like the town or state I'm in, and I'm about ready to go to a different college. I don't want to lead her on though, and if I did finally decide to break up with her I have no idea how I would do that. Her parents and brother are a peice of work too, and I have to see them everyday as well. I guess thats how all parents would be at the start of the relationship though. Any advice?
MichaelIsTaken90 Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 Hey man w/e u do dont break up with her u hear me!!!!!! Just cuz that so called glimmer at the beggining of the relationship went away doesnt mean u have to end it. At the beggining of every relationship everything is so new and there is much to learn about eachother thats what makes it so interesting. But what ur experiencing now is just a phase or dry spot in ur relationship. In other words ur just going to feel bored or whatever for a short period of time. Trust me everything will be back to normal soon the way u would like it. Dont even think about breaking up ok. Ur relationship is going the way it should be going. To me u sound like the type that gets tired of things real fast and wants to move onto the next thing. And that there my friend is something u really need to fix.
MissTiss Posted May 22, 2006 Posted May 22, 2006 Hey man w/e u do dont break up with her u hear me!!!!!! Just cuz that so called glimmer at the beggining of the relationship went away doesnt mean u have to end it. At the beggining of every relationship everything is so new and there is much to learn about eachother thats what makes it so interesting. But what ur experiencing now is just a phase or dry spot in ur relationship. In other words ur just going to feel bored or whatever for a short period of time. Trust me everything will be back to normal soon the way u would like it. Dont even think about breaking up ok. Ur relationship is going the way it should be going. To me u sound like the type that gets tired of things real fast and wants to move onto the next thing. And that there my friend is something u really need to fix. Thats so true. There is always a honeymoon period. Things are always beautiful and new, and you get those butterflies in your stomach, but it fades. The thing is, it doesn't have to. Relationships are work, they are not self sustaining, they need two committed people. She sounds like she has been committed and it is you that should evaluate. If it is just that you aren't experiencing that "new relationship high" then you have to work on that. Plan to do something new together that you have never done, something that will help put that spark in again. AND if you don't want to hurt her, you need to get your feelings in check really quick. Love is something two people should experience together, it shouldn't be one sided and if you are taking her love and not giving any just because the honeymoon period is fading than you are being selfish. Don't get me wrong we are all selfish and sometimes we have to be. You just have to be sure you aren't hurting her in the process of collecting your feelings. Because she won't forget that, and this little dry spell of yours may come back to bite you in the butt.
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