journey05 Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Question- Ive been seperated from my ex for almost 7 months now. During that time we have spent alot of time together, not at first though. She was calling alot to chat asking me over for dinner or to go out with our son. Things started to seem like they were getting settled and we were forgiving eachother when I started to notice she backed away and began to pick little fights or do things to remind me how I hurt her (we had a very hard time after I got home from the war). We got into an argument about a month ago and started to yell at eachother about things that had happend about not trusting. Well after that we didnt really speak but lately she started to call again just to talk or for me to talk to our son. Why is it that she wants to hang out or talk or ask questions like who was that or did you go if she doesnt want this relationship. She did mention to go see a counselor with me after I had asked to go a while ago but it never panned out. Any advice would be good.
Whitt Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 Are you divorced? If not then maybe counseling may work - do you think she is still willing to go?
Author journey05 Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 No we never got married. We were going to bfore I left but she wanted to have a nice wedding with planning and not "eloping". We talked about it more when I came home but shortly after things were getting rough. Im not sure if she will go. I know a couple months ago we had talked about things over dinner she said that she would go but it may only be for one session. We never went. After she said that we continued to hang out during the week and weekends and went out, just us. After we had that argument though we havent spent anytime together alone. It is always us as a family. She still calls and invites me to do stuff. I used to ask her how she was feeling about this and she always said she had no intent on reconciling. I really see alot of confusion in her and I feel like she is constantly picking at me to see how I react. I want this to work I really do and I know she wants this family too. Its just that if she doesnt want to be with but wants the perks of me being there....I just can't do that.
Whitt Posted May 20, 2006 Posted May 20, 2006 You shouldn't be expected to do that either. You need to sit her down and confront her with this issue.
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