caring guy Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Hi Ok, i have had gf's in other countrys & some here that are foreign girls. They have worked in times & sometimes not. Now as i'm in England & my gf is in Spain, can thi swork, i don't know, i just seen her for 5 days & the emoytions poured out that i can't stand at the airport s so difficult. But the pro's are that we shoe each other our countrys like hers is Argentina although she lives in Spain & i am in northern England. I love to travel the excitement, but i know i try to rush things, we both have jobs & study in our countrys, is this something worth giving up for love & therefore no job future/ambitiions comonig true. I said i will quit my college & join her & get a no future job just to be near her, for love, she thinks i should carry opn my studieies & we can have a future, it's a fine line! mm cg
Author caring guy Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 I mean how can it work, we can't go out 3 times a week for dinner, do sports together, be together.! In a way it is romantic, but i want to see her more & because of studies i have to be here! Should i forget my studies for love, afterall my studies are in her language that i would learn there! sheould i follow my heart, as so many stories are positive this way. I have nothing here & a chance to get a job in a beautiful city of Barcelona. It is so me there, the girl i love is there. What is happiness, to have qualifications & a job or to be with someone you love & be equally happy doing a restaurant or bar job, living in heaven! I need happiness & that for me is being there with her & not here where i'm living with family, arguing, problems! So should i just do what so many do & be where my heart is! I was so happy in Barcelona & now here, i have no happinesss & miss my gf, though the life i could live there coulsd be my life, what is me,my destiny! There's so many options. Shouldi stay or should i go! CG
quankanne Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 as important as a relationship – especially when love is returned – is, you really need to get your ducks in a row and get a degree under your belt if it's going to be needed in the field/career you plan to pursue. Sure you miss her and she you, but she's got the right idea here. That way, when y'all DO get together for good, you don't have the question of schooling looming over your head, nor are you going to have "well, I gave up school for you" as an excuse when you argue. finish school, or at least finish out your term and look into tranferring to a university in Spain if you can't be away from her.
Author caring guy Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 I know what you say as to get the degree & both get what we want career wise, but i hear so many stories of following the heart rather than the brain! I could get a job in Barcelona, be happy with her as it is what i want, i'm more a person to want a loviing relationship rather than a career for myself!, this makes me happy! As long as we love & are happy in a city that is a good place, beautiful, & compared to some in the world, a great life working in a bar, would be heaven! 1 life & working in a bar & doing my interests, for me is enough! I'm not ambitious, just to be content & happy. I know my life here is sh*t, i love Barca, & this girl, i would, in my heart go there now. I could do a bar job all my life to be happy, to live with my sweeetheart & in a special place, i need to be not here. cg
francis Posted May 21, 2006 Posted May 21, 2006 A girl wants a guy that can take care of her. For the long term, I don't think a career in bar-tending is going to be substantial in setting up a home, family life, security etc. Calm down, think about your future, stop being so impulsive. I had the option to give up my degree and be with the man I love, but here I am now, just having finished my degree, three years later, very glad I didnt throw that opportunity of an education away. I know the dream sounds wonderful, but once you are together, and that hurdle is overcome, real life kicks in. Believe me, invest in your future prospects and you will command more respect from her.
Author caring guy Posted May 22, 2006 Author Posted May 22, 2006 Thanks Francis I know what you say is right, & others have said the same, i am focusing on my future & that will gain a better future. I am thinking with my brain rather tha my heart for once. Que sera, sera! cg
Author caring guy Posted June 2, 2006 Author Posted June 2, 2006 I was wondering what the longest time anyone has been in a LDR for, before getting together permanently. I can get cheap flight to her city & i know she studys there & can't leave that often, i was just wandering what sort of timespan between seeing each other can keep the LDR healthy & for how long can a couple be in a LDR before someone needs to make that break & join. cg
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