Kim Posted October 17, 2001 Posted October 17, 2001 Recently found out that my ex was with a guy when we were still going out. I am completely distraught and shocked Has any one every expereinced this?
Nicky Posted October 17, 2001 Posted October 17, 2001 Recently found out that my ex was with a guy when we were still going out. I am completely distraught and shocked Has any one every expereinced this? I cant say i have had this experience no, but im sure id be very shocked to. All you can do is confront him about it, let him know your angry with him for lying to you, but also show him you understand what he is going through&try to be there for him if he needs you. He's probably very confused and embarrassed at the moment.
cross-eyed Posted October 17, 2001 Posted October 17, 2001 "show him you understand what he is going through&try to be there for him if he needs you." what the hell? she should show him she understands, the fact that he basically cheated on her during their relationship, the fact that the engaged in a risky behavior, the fact that he wasn't honest with her. she should try to be there for him? what the hell? she's the one who needs to have someone there for her, not her cheating ex boyfriend. what he did was disgusting and wrong. if he wanted to sleep with men he should have told her before he did it, so she could have decided whether she still wanted to be with a guy like that. i'm sure she figured her man was totally heterosexual. she doesn't have to show him jack s*** He's the one who betrayed her trust. why should he get all this support and sympathy for being a cheating sicko? I cant say i have had this experience no, but im sure id be very shocked to. All you can do is confront him about it, let him know your angry with him for lying to you, but also show him you understand what he is going through&try to be there for him if he needs you. He's probably very confused and embarrassed at the moment.
Picasso Posted October 17, 2001 Posted October 17, 2001 Well being bisexual doesn't make you a sicko. He cheated, yes. He lied, yes. She has every right to be angry. How much of an ex he is and how she found out about this are all factors in her confronting him. (?) She may feel momentarily better for doing that, but then maybe later she won't. Esp. if it becomes an emotional upset for her. It probably isn't even be worth it. I suggest putting this ex completely behind you before this begins to eat away at your self esteem. You don't need that. Focus on the present. Good luck. "show him you understand what he is going through&try to be there for him if he needs you." what the hell? she should show him she understands, the fact that he basically cheated on her during their relationship, the fact that the engaged in a risky behavior, the fact that he wasn't honest with her. she should try to be there for him? what the hell? she's the one who needs to have someone there for her, not her cheating ex boyfriend. what he did was disgusting and wrong. if he wanted to sleep with men he should have told her before he did it, so she could have decided whether she still wanted to be with a guy like that. i'm sure she figured her man was totally heterosexual. she doesn't have to show him jack s*** He's the one who betrayed her trust. why should he get all this support and sympathy for being a cheating sicko?
jen1297 Posted October 17, 2001 Posted October 17, 2001 I found out that my ex was with 11 people at the same time he was dating me. Only 2 were female. The only thing that I can say is never blame yourself for him cheating or turning to another man, because it will eat away at your self-esteem like Picasso says. Well being bisexual doesn't make you a sicko. He cheated, yes. He lied, yes. She has every right to be angry. How much of an ex he is and how she found out about this are all factors in her confronting him. (?) She may feel momentarily better for doing that, but then maybe later she won't. Esp. if it becomes an emotional upset for her. It probably isn't even be worth it. I suggest putting this ex completely behind you before this begins to eat away at your self esteem. You don't need that. Focus on the present. Good luck.
Peaches Posted October 18, 2001 Posted October 18, 2001 I once had a guy that started talking to this other guy while we were dating. I was his last girlfriend...he only has boyfriends now. I was shocked, hurt, and didn't want to believe it. We are still friends though...but even that took time. Peaches Recently found out that my ex was with a guy when we were still going out. I am completely distraught and shocked Has any one every expereinced this?
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