tacoman Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Okay heres the deal. about a year or so out of my 5 years relationship (she dumped me hopped to another guy immediatly) i am over it. I have basically dedicated myself to career to get that in order. On the side (since i am working a fair bit, etc) i just do the stupid online chat thing with some girls on myspace in the area ( i know its lame, but i find it easy since i work so much) Basically i have been talking pretty consistently for the past couple to three months with this one girl. We get along, have similar interests, etc... A few days ago she out of no where to me (it had mostly been stupid friendly stuff) asks what "a perfect first date with her would be" and gave me some options. I made a dumb offer to see who was funnier, etc and about moving into an old age home when i am old...she responds with saying "she will give the comedy thing a try" and "wont let me move into an old age home, so i dont have to worry. In my responses back i have been pretty direct about liking her. Last night i sent the message saying i would like to eventually meet her for a real date, etc..being polite, etc.. She just read the message this morning (and another message the night before) and i am yet to hear back (even though she has signed on today and yesterday) and am wondering if i blew it. Jumped the gun, etc.. what the hell did i do wrong??? thanks everyone
Noos Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 She's not sure that she likes you like that or she is one of these people that gets a thrill from flirting on line but can't handle people in real life.
Guest Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 thats a good point. She got the one message just this morning, what is a reasonable amount of time that can go by for her to get back? I know myself when i get messages i sometimes dont deal with them for 2 or 3 days for numorous reasons. We have talked fairly frequently. If i dont hear back from this do i just never contact her again. We are on pretty easy going casual terms. thanks for the advice. i really gotta let this stop getting to me, afterall it is just stupid online crap which isnt even reality i guess.
Author tacoman Posted May 18, 2006 Author Posted May 18, 2006 thats a good point. She got the one message just this morning, what is a reasonable amount of time that can go by for her to get back? I know myself when i get messages i sometimes dont deal with them for 2 or 3 days for numorous reasons. We have talked fairly frequently. If i dont hear back from this do i just never contact her again. We are on pretty easy going casual terms. thanks for the advice. i really gotta let this stop getting to me, afterall it is just stupid online crap which isnt even reality i guess.
Vertex Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Blowing it too early in the game? Mmmm you can never blow too early...
Noos Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Jeez Vertex - may be that why you're single now! Um, what kind of job does she have? If she's a barrister - two to three days is acceptable. If she is a clerk and works at a desk 9-5, if she goes for more than 24 hours without replying, you can be sure that she is seeking advice from her friends. If you don't hear from her and really like her, do a follow up e-mail and ask why you haven't heard from her. But limit yourself to one. If you don't hear after that - delete her from your memory.
Vertex Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Jeez Vertex - may be that why you're single now! Um, what kind of job does she have? If she's a barrister - two to three days is acceptable. If she is a clerk and works at a desk 9-5, if she goes for more than 24 hours without replying, you can be sure that she is seeking advice from her friends. If you don't hear from her and really like her, do a follow up e-mail and ask why you haven't heard from her. But limit yourself to one. If you don't hear after that - delete her from your memory. LOL no my single status has little to do with early blows People who purposely don't reply to messages when they have the time... iffy sign.
maxima888 Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 wow OP, we are on the same boat... Just got out of a 5year relationship, 1 year single, talking to girls online ie: myspace etc. And I'm having a very similar situation. Well like what the other guys said if you really really like her shoot her one more e-mail/Msg. If she don't respond just forget about her and move on to the next one.
Guest Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 I hear ya maxima888, i dont know what the hell these peoples deals are. I am trying not to expect much, but when you get along so well for a few months, message all the time. They get flirty and ask about dates, etc...then you ask and all of a sudden they fall off the face of the earth. WTF. Its not like i am a freak. I am open, honest, good job, good enough looking, etc...i am just a normal decent guy who happens to work a lot and is done school now and working with mostly guys. This was a way to do it when i am home late (because i dont think i am going to meet my type of girl in a bar - no offense - that would be like winning lottery). I dont know what to do. I do like her and we have a lot in common, so i may drop her a line after the weekend and leave it at that.
Author tacoman Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 I hear ya maxima888, i dont know what the hell these peoples deals are. I am trying not to expect much, but when you get along so well for a few months, message all the time. They get flirty and ask about dates, etc...then you ask and all of a sudden they fall off the face of the earth. WTF. Its not like i am a freak. I am open, honest, good job, good enough looking, etc...i am just a normal decent guy who happens to work a lot and is done school now and working with mostly guys. This was a way to do it when i am home late (because i dont think i am going to meet my type of girl in a bar - no offense - that would be like winning lottery). I dont know what to do. I do like her and we have a lot in common, so i may drop her a line after the weekend and leave it at that.
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