budd98 Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 I have been dating a girl for 16 months now. She is 24 and I am 26. We have been struggling with our relationship within the past couple months and it has caused it to be off and on at times. She is really insecure. Just a little feedback. In a bar situation she can talk to a hundred guys, but if I talk to one girl she blows up. She always thinks I am up to something, but I never have. Her b-day was 3 weeks ago and her dad bought her a trip 2 vegas. She was going with her g/f and her dad. She also told me she was going to visit some of her other family this summer in other states too. Well, the vegas trip bothered me, but I never told her that. So when we were broke up for a few days, I bought a trip to go see my brother in Arizona. We ended up getting back together and triing to work things out the next week, but I still never told her about the trip I had bought. Her trip to vegas was a flop, so I finally told her about mine on sunday. The trip is for next week. Anyways, she blew up. She told me that she has never hated anyone more then me and that I ruined any chance we had. I don't understand why me going to visit my brother would wreck any chances. Her last text message on monday was that I could buy a trip to go party with my bro, but can't take her on one. Monday was the last time I talked to her. She won't answer my calls or text's anymore. I really love this girl and I feel she is really over reacting. Why is she acting this way? Is there anything I can do or say to make things right? She says we are over and she never wants to see me again, is that true? This no contact from her is killing me inside. Do you think I should not communicate back? Should I cancel my trip? Please help me! thanks!
Philipek Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Hey, she's treating you like dirt and you're lapping it up. I've been doing this for years and I've only just started to realise it. If going to visit your brother is a problem for her, then she's a problem for you. Family is one of the most important things in life... and if she doesn't understand that, then she's not the one for you. More than this, she's being a pure hypocrite. I am in no position to talk about long term pain, but for the short, accept it. Get drunk, cry, phone old friends... do all of that stuff.
tearful_soul22 Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 it's time for you to stand tall and don't let her control you. if she doesn't answer any of your calls, and told you she hates you, then...it's pretty obvious she's not into you anymore. you will get over her and the NC will help you greatly and improve your self-esteem. take care and be good to yourself!
Author budd98 Posted May 18, 2006 Author Posted May 18, 2006 She did call me last night. We only talked for 5 minutes and she hung up on me again. She is so good at that. She said that she hates me so much. Then she kept texting me for a couple of hours. Said that if I meant anything at all, I should cancel that trip. She said that it is like spring break there all the time at havasu and that I will probably get aids. I told her to come with then, and she asked the price of tickets. Well, I don't want her with because my time with my brother would suck if she was there. That is the whole point of going by myself. And she asked why I had to go over a weekend. Wow, is all I was thinking on that. Finally she said that I got even at her for going on a trip when she was going on one too, but hers was a flop. Do you think she will regret saying that she hates me so much? She also said she is throwing all our stuff away. The more I think about everything, the more it is driving me away from her.
Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 so its ok for her to talk in a bar to 100 guys, but once you talk to a few girls she blows up. she sounds like a control freak. she wants her cake and to eat it too. Don't you sense that these attributes of her personality will only get worse if you cave in to them? Do you think you deserve this from someone like her? My advice is to forget her and break up with her. she isn't worth it.
Numbheart Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Theres always 2 sides to a story like this, however, from what is presented here, dump her! She is manipulative, childish, selfish and spoilt. Do not cancel your trip, do not allow her to go with you. All easier said than done!...the sooner you start seeing all this the easier it will be to take action.
Author budd98 Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 How do you think she will act when I get back from the trip? Or would that just seal the break-up for good?
MadDog Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 How do you think she will act when I get back from the trip? Or would that just seal the break-up for good? Who gives a damn? The bitch is psycho.
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