ForeverYoung79 Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 I'm not sure if i'm doing this right, but I found this site and I've never posted on a forum before, and I just hope to get some advice. I'm 18 and my parents have been divorced for 9 years. My mother has had a dandy time of it--she couldn't be happier. My father took it very hard. He refused to speak to my mother for 7 years, even though he still took my brother and I for weekend visits. When I was young, I was the picture perfect Daddy's little girl. We were inseparatable, he taught me everything. After the divorce, he treated me (and my brother) as two people that he was required to take to dinner once a week. He put out that it was a strain on him and his bank account and he found any excuses to get out of it. Finally, we stopped seeing him all together, only occassionally on days when he needed to drop off a check or something. We (my mother, brother and I) knew that it was no strain at all on him, as my mother left him EVERYTHING...she moved out, and bought new furniture, and set up a new life, and supported my brother and I. My father was required to pay for my private school education. Throughout all this I was patient. I never made a peep when he insisted that Applebee's was too expensive and we were going to Burger King instead. I was certain that one day he would snap back to the way it was before, when I was his little girl, and he taught me things, and I felt like he loved me. It is 9 years later and I am still waiting. I've almost snapped once or twice, told him what he was doing to me...but everytime he would become loving again, he would take me out for coffee and we'd talk about life and laugh and have a great time, and I'd think that he was changing. But of course it never really happened. I've just returned from college far away from home. He saw me twice, he didn't get out of his car either time, spoke to me from the driver's seat. He neglected to invite me to dinner with my brother, or invite me to Six Flags: a 'bonding trip' between my brother, my father, and my father's girlfriend. Maybe he just doesn't want a daughter anymore. I honestly don't know what I'm feeling emotionally. The anger I feel for him is so fleeting, I still love him, he is still my daddy, but I don't know what to do anymore. I want a relationship with him, but if I tell him straight out, I'll end up with a forced relationship, one that he feels trapped in. Now I'm thinking in circles, please help. Deeply Confused~~young79
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