KittenMoon Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 This has been bothering me lately. Just broke up from my first love after 6.5 years for those not familiar with my many rants. Before him I dated 2 guys in high school briefly, w/o much (any) emotional investment. I pretty much only dated them because they were willing to go out with ME (I've since grown out of that self-conciousness). Now my heart is utterly crushed but what I keep wondering is- how can I start again with a guy I have no love for? I was madly infatuated with my ex from the first time I met him, friendship was easy, and then we feel in love quickly. Even now I am amazed that something like that can actually happen. But I don't expect that to happen again, at least not for a very long time, and just going out on a date with someone I feel nothing for seems utterly pointless. I personally don't get infatuated often, I never have. But I don't want to be alone for YEARS, so I know I will have to suck it up and probably go on at least a few dates with people who I will feel nothing for. Since I've never really experienced what I am going to call "cold start dating" I was hoping others could share some perspective and opinions on this. Do you think waiting for someone you feel something for is best, or is attempting to play the field a bit better? This doesn't need to be specific towards my situation- I just wanted to get some opinions or shared experiences.
laRubiaBonita Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 k~ i have jumped a boat ahead of you. just broke up a month ago, with my first love, though i have "dated" (loose term) many other guys. so i was without a guy for maybe one week. then this other guy, who has liked me for a bit started chatting with me, we work for the same company but in different departments. so i have gone out with him 3 times. i like him.... i think. he thinks the world of me, so he says, he also said he will do anything to make me, and i deserve only the best. i am just soo guarded right now..... i am kinda scared. but it is soo nice...... when i am with him, it feels familiar, not like the x, but wonderful.
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