Ranyamellon Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 live with two guys. I'm graduating college in...geez, a week. My plans for living next year are to room with two of my guy friends because they were the only ones I knew looking for a place in the area. My parents, of course, are pitching a fit. But before I had even decided this I talked to my boyfriend (of 2.5 years) to make sure he's okay with it. And he said yes. But last night he had a dream where we got married, then 10 minutes later I was making out with one of my to-be-roommates (who is a mutual friend of ours). When he told me this, I asked him agian how he felt, because obviously he wasn't okay with it. He admitted that he doesn't like it but that he didn't tell me that because if the situation were reversed, he would choose to live with two girls he knew rather than strangers. And he would be upset with me if I expressed any unhappiness with the idea. would you guys mind your SO living with members of the opposite sex?
Brittanyjean06 Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 Yes, I think I would mind alot I meen now if it was a guy and a girl than that would be different but for him your going to be living with two guys I smell jealousy or future problems!
allina Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 I live with two male roomates (I'm female) and have lived with them for 3 years now. It has never been an issue in my relationships or theirs. I think it's silly to have a problem with such a living situation.
whichwayisup Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 Personally I think it's a dangerous situation...But it could work if there are rules and boundries set up. NO crossing lines with them. Meaning, no affectionate cuddles on the couch, or slipping into bed together, just for company to hangout and talk...ALL that could lead to other things and I'm sure it's crossed your boyfriend's mind as well. I mean, I don't think you'd be too pleased if he decided to move in with 2 women... I just think this situation of yours is going to cause more problems than it's worth. He may trust you 100%, but he isn't going to trust those 2 other guys! Considering he IS a guy, he knows how and what they think etc. But, it could work as long as ALL of you are respecting eachother and very careful NOT to cross any lines.
Bogun Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 I definitely wouldnt like it. Having lived with other people around your age, both guys and girls, I've seen what can happen. The guys are young, dumb and full of cum, and unless their gay, part of their brains are thinking "woohoo, we got a chick to live with us".
tanbark813 Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 I think it depends on the guys. I had a gf in college who was going to move in with 3 guys. I hated the idea at first but didn't really say anything. But then I met the guys and saw that they were all tools, and didn't give it a second thought after that.
Guest Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 I live with a guy and a girl, and my boyfriend lived with a girl last year. It's really not that big of a deal, as long as you trust one another and there are no sexual feelings between you and your roommates. No different from living with a girl, in my case at least.
mini696 Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 It depends on the guys, and you... I know some people just cant be trusted to leave their roomates alone, whereas others could be in a bed together naked and still not do anything. I would be jealous, but if it was the best option, then I would accept my GF's decision and trust her.
amerikajin Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 I would not want my girlfriend living with another guy. I know that there are very few guys who don't at least have some degree of romantic interest in her, so why would I even take the chance of someone else spending time with her, chipping away at our relationship and possibly scoring some after we have a fight one night. It's not that I don't trust my girlfriend, but let's face facts: some situations are just riskier than others. I don't even necessarily like the fact that my girl has lots of guy friends that she pals around with, including two or three that she occasionally has dinner with. But I know her well enough to know that she does this mainly because she can't stand eating alone. Furthermore, I'm only going to go so far in trying to establish boundaries. But living together's a definite no-no in my book. If she insisted on it, that would probably send me running for the hills unless I knew the guy was a complete tool or just plain gay.
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