My_Other_I Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I actually have a nice man in my life (besides my nice friends). I'm almost afraid to accept all this, it feels like life has been too good to be true! I know I said I will take a break from dating, and, of course, that's when I met him. We have actually known about each other for a while, but never really talked. Now we are together and he is nice , respectful, honest, single, caring and fun! That's such a difference from my last relationship! I've said this before and will say it again. All the BS I did with last two MM was a wonderful learning experience and I would not change a thing! So girlies, hang in there, you will forget about your exes and you will realize that it was a huge mistake to give yourself to a liar who betrayes the one he promised to love for life. You will learn not to lower yourself to his level ever again! Good luck to ya all! I need to add, after I read Curmudgeon's post, MY MAN IS RETROSEXUAL! I couldn't be happier
movinon05 Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 Yay for moving on and finding a good guy! I have a BF too for the past 7 months, but I'm afraid it might not work out. But that's okay. I tried and found out it was possible. Good luck to you!
Author My_Other_I Posted May 16, 2006 Author Posted May 16, 2006 Yay for moving on and finding a good guy! I have a BF too for the past 7 months, but I'm afraid it might not work out. But that's okay. I tried and found out it was possible. Good luck to you! Thanks, MO Sorry it might not work out, but like you said, it showed you that it is possible. You can still trust men and that's a good thing! After all the bad and ugly you've seen with your MM, trust is hard to establish again. Good luck to you, too:love:
Walking away Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I have also been dating some very available and wonderful men lately also. There are good guys out there. I believe it now. And when the timing is right...my Mr. Wonderful will come and find me..... I believe THAT too.
Author My_Other_I Posted May 16, 2006 Author Posted May 16, 2006 I have also been dating some very available and wonderful men lately also. There are good guys out there. I believe it now. And when the timing is right...my Mr. Wonderful will come and find me..... I believe THAT too. Spring is in the air!
RealityCheck Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I really don't believe I am cut out for a "live in relationship". I actually am most content on my own. That is not to say that it wouldn't be nice to find ONE person I can completely connect with where he has his place and I have mine! I have no desire to look down the road and sit with a Man in the same house! I enjoy "my own time" and I also enjoy the company of my friends very much! I enjoy getting up in the morning and not having to look at the same darn face morning, noon and night! The only people in my life that I have never felt anything but unconditional love for have been my sons! That is a love that I will have forever and I feel quite fulfilled being a Mom and knowing I really do have it all!
Lishy Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I really don't believe I am cut out for a "live in relationship". I actually am most content on my own. That is not to say that it wouldn't be nice to find ONE person I can completely connect with where he has his place and I have mine! I have no desire to look down the road and sit with a Man in the same house! I enjoy "my own time" and I also enjoy the company of my friends very much! I enjoy getting up in the morning and not having to look at the same darn face morning, noon and night! The only people in my life that I have never felt anything but unconditional love for have been my sons! That is a love that I will have forever and I feel quite fulfilled being a Mom and knowing I really do have it all! WOW!!!!!!!! You have mirrored my exact feelings!
StoneyHeart Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 WOW!!!!!!!! You have mirrored my exact feelings! Ditto....which would be part of the justification in having my emotional needs met through an A - don't have to listen to the opinions of others on a daily basis. My problem is the morality of it all.....even if that is what would really work best- need to find a workaholic or LDR vs. a MM!! (not that I sought out this MM, it was just part of the justification to let the conversations run deeper than they should have).
Blind Illusion Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 I really don't believe I am cut out for a "live in relationship". quote] Maybe I am not either. At least for now. Maybe for more than that I'll have to see.
Walking away Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 There is nothing wrong with being alone. I have been alone for seven years...give or take a relationship here and there. But, I do hope that I can share moments in the future with someone who will be there as I grow old and as my kids have grandchildren. I am not cut out to be in a relationship right now either. And, that is okay. But I hope that someday that will change. I would like to have a companion eventually.
Author My_Other_I Posted May 17, 2006 Author Posted May 17, 2006 I thought I wanted to be alone, too. I was quite happy being alone, given the fact that I am too independant and too proud to be able to share my daily life with anyone else, but I'm not stupid not to take a chance with a nice guy who gives me my space and who has a life on his own. I agree that MM met my needs in that department, it was very convenient and safe, since I knew it really wouldn't get too serious. I remember the moment when I thought that he might actually move in if his W decided to kick him out, and it made me sick to my stomach. I am not letting him go just because I once thought something different. Life changes and flexibility is what makes it so great. If it doesn't work out for other reasons, that's fine. As of now, things are great.
RealityCheck Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 My OAI.... I tend to agree with everything you said! I certainly was not looking for an A, but when the opportunity presented itself, I too, thought it was a safe bet for me. I kinda still do, because it serves my purpose. My fear is that he'll leave his W thinking I would want him "live-in" YIKES! Not at all what I have in mind! Good post!
Author My_Other_I Posted May 17, 2006 Author Posted May 17, 2006 I feel that I need to clarify one thing, since my post might come across a bit foggy for those who haven't read the whole thread. I agreed with other posters about relationships or no relationships. I meant to say that yes, I wanted to be alone and see my future as being alone, but since I happened to come across a nice man, I will just go with the flow, regardless what I thought before - hence my A. I see the A as a mistake that came out of my vulnerability when it comes to good looking men, but I certainly do not regret having been through the whole deal. It got me where I'm now, and I'm darn happy with my life. Sometimes I can see in posts on this forum bitterness and anger, which leads to thoughts of being alone and mistrust for men or people/relationships in general. I hope that everyone is/will be able to do that fits best to each individual, I hope that everyone can find happiness after dark days. Hugs to all you girls!
movinon05 Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 There's nothing wrong with wanting one thing or another, being alone or with someone. We feel differently about these things as time goes on. As long as one opens themselves up to the possibilities, then we learn it doesn't have to be cut and dry, one way or the other. Everything is possible. We just have to open up our hearts so that we can see it when and if the right person comes along. No harm in dabbling in the meantime!! I do hope things work out for you. Gives you a new perspective!
RealityCheck Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 MO... Very true indeed! Remain open to the possibilities. Life has a way of always having its way with you! What one resists will persist! I definately am open, but for today I am enjoying where I am.
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