Ruff Ryder Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 Its a case of making a decisoin and living it. AND trust me when I say its hard very hard. What is it going to be? Dont wait for tomorrow make it now and live with it. Im not telling you how to live just offering you and option here. BE HAPPY my friend just be you
Guest Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 This is part of life......these events that happen to you happen for a reason. It is questioning your very existence in this world, and to teach you that THROUGHOUT your life, you are going to have to deal with this!! (meeting girls, falling in love breaking up etc) It never stops! its JUST LIFE! there is no set guarantee for anything. When you said that in your mind you made her a god, that is so dangerous to your psyche that no wonder you are losing it.....you are affirming to yourself that SHE is the last girl you will ever meet. I have lost SEVERAL girls who were so godly to me that I have lost my mind temporarily like you are now.....this stuff never goes away, but it demonstrates character and its gonna grow some balls on you man. Trust me. You will look back at this, and be so damm proud of yourself for surviving this tumultous breakup In POLAND of all places! You have to love yourself first, whats the point in saturating a relationship with someone to the point that she will leave you? WOMEN LEAVE FOR UNKNOWN REASONS! WITHOUT EXPLANATION! you will never hear from her unless she has found that she really loves you, but why, oh why wait and linger in your apt, smoking eating getting fatter!? Look at yourself from another point of view and change your whole response to this. Every no is closer to a bigger YES. by the way im on break up #37? i think i forget who cares
Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 This is part of life......these events that happen to you happen for a reason. It is questioning your very existence in this world, and to teach you that THROUGHOUT your life, you are going to have to deal with this!! (meeting girls, falling in love breaking up etc) It never stops! its JUST LIFE! there is no set guarantee for anything. When you said that in your mind you made her a god, that is so dangerous to your psyche that no wonder you are losing it.....you are affirming to yourself that SHE is the last girl you will ever meet. I have lost SEVERAL girls who were so godly to me that I have lost my mind temporarily like you are now.....this stuff never goes away, but it demonstrates character and its gonna grow some balls on you man. Trust me. You will look back at this, and be so damm proud of yourself for surviving this tumultous breakup In POLAND of all places! You have to love yourself first, whats the point in saturating a relationship with someone to the point that she will leave you? WOMEN LEAVE FOR UNKNOWN REASONS! WITHOUT EXPLANATION! you will never hear from her unless she has found that she really loves you, but why, oh why wait and linger in your apt, smoking eating getting fatter!? Look at yourself from another point of view and change your whole response to this. Every no is closer to a bigger YES. by the way im on break up #37? i think i forget who cares
Author Philipek Posted May 19, 2006 Author Posted May 19, 2006 How are you doing Phillip? Thanks. Holding it together. Writing stuff down, trying to deal and most of all trying to think what do with myself. It's 20:20 on friday night and I'm sat here... how sad. I'm thinking about going to bar, but not really sure how to go about it. There's one about 10 minutes walk away... but what to do when I get there? Part of me wants to sit and dwell, another part of me wants to go out there and meet with people. It's not as easy for me to walk alone into a bar and just start chatting away with people, so I am really nervous about trying it. Anyone know a good singles bar in the Pruszków Mazowieckie region?
kitten chick Posted May 19, 2006 Posted May 19, 2006 You're obviously a very deep and caring person, you're not going to be over this in a day or a week. Give yourself time, let yourself grieve. Be kind to yourself and don't push yourself too hard. Take your journal out with you and sit in a public place to write, you'll feel better when you have a change of scenery.
Guest Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 I have recently broken up with my girl friend, and I am falling apart. Physically and emotionally. I can’t rationalize it. No matter what I do, I can get to grips with the situation. I had been with my girlfriend for nearly three years. All I know is that I loved her with every fiber of my being. She was the wheat and everything else was the chaff. She touched me in a way that I never imagined. When she smiled, my heart melted. All I can see is her beautiful smile. It haunts me. I would have done anything for her. I gave her everything. I left my country, I leant a new language and I got stuck with a job I despise. I sacrificed my home, my family, my friends and my mother tongue for her. She took everything I had, and I gave it gladly, because just the thought of being with her was enough. I am not a greedy person. I have no money, nor do I want any. All I wanted was love, and that was I had. What more does a person need? And now what do I have left? Nothing. Now I am stuck here in Warsaw. I came here with nothing but a suitcase and everything I have acquired since is tainted with her memory. I have no friends left, because they were all her friends. They have abandoned me through etiquette. They have known her a lot longer than they have known me, after all. All I can do is sit at home drinking and smoking. I can’t even imagine how to pick up the pieces. It seems as though I am stuck at the bottom of a well shouting for help, only there’s no one there to listen. Worst of all is that I can’t return home either. I have nowhere to live, no hope of finding a job. I am stuck here rotting. The last time I saw her she turned and blew a kiss at me. She tells me she loves me, but all she wants is to be alone, to have her freedom. She’s in another country now. She went to Budapest to study. I came to Poland from England to be with her, and she ran away and abandoned me here. It hurts me like hell. All I want to do is hold her in my arms one more time, to tell her that I love her. I tried to be the perfect boyfriend. I gave my girlfriend everything that I had. I sacrificed my whole life for her, and she’s run away and left me. Dumped me via text message from Budapest. I never cheated, I never even looked at other women. I didn’t get jealous, not once, because I trusted her. I cooked, I cleaned, I went shopping. I proposed at Easter. I filled my room with 100 candles, I made a perfect dinner, her favorite. I had a beautiful silver ring made (she prefers silver) and after we made love she said no and walked out. She sent me a text saying she needed time. And then, after it all, she tells me that she loves me, but she’s been with five men and now decides that she prefers her freedom to romance. Some people spend their whole lives looking for their soul mate and never find that special person. They are the lucky ones. To have your happiness wrenched away is the most devastating experience imaginable. I feel like part of me has been amputated. People keep telling me I’ll get over it, and maybe I will, but I’m always going to be missing a part of me and she is always going to be tingling like a phantom limb. Why is that women only like a**holes? When you give them everything they want, they say it’s not enough. Maybe I should have spent my time beating her instead of wooing her, then maybe I wouldn’t be sitting alone in the world. Even after hearing the news that she had been with other men I still loved her. I felt like I had been raped, but I tried to distance myself from physical pleasure and love. I sold everything I had to get a train ticket. I tried everything I could to get there and woo her, to make her understand that without her I am nothing. She told me that if I came to Budapest to see her, she would make sure she wasn’t there. She’d be in Zagreb. I can’t comprehend it. She tells me that she loves me, that there is no one else hotter than me for her, her last words to me were “I love you.” How can she love me and be so cruel? If she had just said "I hate you." then maybe I could cope. I feel like there's hope, even though there isn't All I ever wanted was someone to hold in my arms. I don’t see how I can ever love again. I have nothing left to give. Where do I even begin to heal? What can I do? I have lost everything but my life, and this depression is taking that away from me inch by inch. I am self-destructing, I would even admit that I am relishing the pain. How can I pick up the pieces? Please, someone tell me what to do. response I kind of feel you pain but I have good news sometimes we (myself included in past) are hurt by maybe a first strong love but guess what there is always someone more talented around the corner and the opnly reason you did not know that was because she saw you were involved and guess what when or if she ever sees you involved with a new love I bet she would want you back your hurtin now because you are alone
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