jefeco99 Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I'm about to turn 25 next week, and my gf of 1 year broke up with me two months ago. I just started NC 2 weeks ago after about a month and a half of being broken up. No more late night please and no emails about how i promise to change. I found her xanga site last week and I read about the new guy she immediatly started dating after we broke up. He buys her flowers, got her a necklace within 2 weeks of dating, and write her poems. She writes that she is so happy with him and glad taht she left me. But her last post was a month ago, and she writes that she misses me and still has a desire to cling on to me. Well, what do you expect when you move on so fast after a 1 year relationship. I was in NY last week for business and my phone rings 1 time. It was her number so i call her back. She sounds upset that i called but i told her that she called me. She gives me the excuse that she sat on her phone and that it probably called me. We talked for a little and then we start to argue about who left who. She says she doesnt care because shes with someone new anyway. Well, she calls me again later that night to talk. I finally get it out of her that she stil has feelings for me and that she can't completly love this guy as much as she would want to because of me. But then ofcourse we start to argue and she starts to remind me about how wonderful this new guy is again. I heard her take off in her car and i asked her where she was going. She told me she was going to spend the night at her bf's, knowing that telling me that would kill me. I hang up upset, sweaty, and very nervous. So i call her back 20 mins later and she picks up back at her place. She did that on purpose just to f*** with me, but i didn't call her out on it. THe next day i call her and she tells me never to call her again. That she is happy with who she is with, blah, blah, blah. They are already talking about marriage and having kids, less then 2 months of being together. After that, she stopped taking my calls. What do I do? I miss her so much and my love for her is unbearable. What do I take out of the fact that she called me? I am doing NC again, but I love her so much being without her is killing me. I know a lot of you have gone through this before, so any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Ruff Ryder Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I learnt the hard way, I posted here the day after the break up, and just was to hard headed to listen to other people's advise. What you need to do is play the hard ball tough love is what is needed NC is the best way to go about if. If you want her back through NC she will miss you and if she doesnt then you would have take the fist few steps to moving on. To put your mide at ease a little my ex FIANCE dated someone else within 2 days of the break up ( i think she was seeing him before the split) but that lasted 3 months he treated her like crap and they split up and a nasty one at that. My ex now calls me every day texts me every day sends me mails all the time and I just dont respond. Human nature wants what they cant have. Take some space make new friends and keep to NC for min a month best would be 2. Wish her to be happy and for you to be happy. Just be the person she fell in love with all the time. Remember if you were good to her she will always measure others up to you and they will fail because they are not you. It doesnt matter at the end of the day who she is with, its not cheating if you are not dating her. So the best thing you can do is stay away for now and go out find other prople have fun (DO IT) no excuses that your not in the mood for it just DO IT. If you feel that you were good for her then it will happen without you pussing it so just leave everything that relates to her and be you and have fun doing it. Go to gym start hobbies play sport make NEW friends. Good luck my friend dont let the pain consume you
Ruff Ryder Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 Wel it all comes down to exposure, I have been there and didnt take any advise from people and got hurt over and over again. So here I m just tring to help where i can. I think you need to be hurt and have hard times to be able to enjoy the good ones. That just makes sence to me. Well live life dont let it live you. (thanks for the comments)
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