dr strangelove Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 Thats sort of rough idea of how long I have been broken up with my ex. I have had at least one relationship since then. Several dates. My life turned upside down with traumatic events. Lately Ive managae to pull myself out of a financial tailspin that was headed into. For the last month or more it was good to have that to focus on. Being at the top of the heap again, I realize its not enough I look ahead of me and I all I see is work. Not very hopeful for any summer romances. Its easy enough to tell someone to move on. I agree I hope everyday that I can. I remember my ex once went to a psychic and asked her if about us, how long we would be together etc.. the psychic wouldnt say only thing she did say is that I would come to a "realization". I had no idea what that meant before now. I have come to many realizations. In any case Im having alot of trouble sleeping lately, Im kind of wondering when this comes to end or if this is just the begining...
Author dr strangelove Posted May 16, 2006 Author Posted May 16, 2006 I just had this thought, what if my ex is doing NC, to me? for some reason this idea doesnt seem too far fetched.........
In Sync Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I just had this thought, what if my ex is doing NC, to me? for some reason this idea doesnt seem too far fetched......... The answer you want and the answer you need to hear are two different things. You want to hear "Oh yeah, sure your ex is doing NC to you, so break the ice and contact her." And you two will catch up on old times and become friends again... The answer you're going to hear from me is a tad bit less fluff....everyone recovery time is different. You've made great stride, and progress...stop looking back. It's a simple thing to say but that's what you are doing. And you can control that. Find something in your life that challenges you and engages you, focus on something that builds your pride. That you can be proud of. Although you've marked a long span of time of NC, remember this is also your personal battle to overcome how long you intend to stay in each phase. Time does heal but there's no reason you can't tell yourself I can ddo something about how I move on and not just waste and reminisce and wait and expect that alone the hurts of the past will just disappear.
pippen_2k Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 Dont worry mate... I thought I was never gonna get over my ex, but once you meet another chick who starts stressing you out she will be long forgoten lol
KittenMoon Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 Have you thought about going to another psychic? It sounds a bit silly- but IMO I think that stuff can be helpful. I read tarot cards. I find them meditative. It's not that I expect to see the future, nor would I take what a psychic said to me w/o a grain of salt, but I have found that these kinds of "wild thinking" in themselves can trigger different levels of thought in people- things we wouldn't necessarily consider normally because we are so focused on a specific thing.
shelters Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I don't know your story beyond this thread, but I'm a big fan of 2nd chances- third or fourth? No. But a second chance? Definitely. Why go through life with 'what if'? If you are strong enough to put yourself in a vulnerable position to contact her (if that is what you are saying you think you might want to do)- then do it! Life is about living. No regrets.
Author dr strangelove Posted May 17, 2006 Author Posted May 17, 2006 No its not that I wish to hear ' Hey she is doing NC?" Its something I never considered.. I also didnt consider the fact that she has probably wandered by my store, by since it has been only open by appointment our paths probably never cross. Thats what happened last time she just popped up, but I have taken that option away from her. So she can only pop up on MSN now, and I took that away because I blocked her and deleted her. In any case her name keeps popping up in movies, spam, books, newspaper whatever.. Like some bizarre message from the spirit world. "we choose to see what we wish to see" ah no, I dont wish to see this. The occurence is freaky. I have a book about psychics in the shop here somewhere. Theres a documented story about a man and woman. The man went off with another woman.. the lady was left alone.. weeks later freaky stuff happened in the house. It was only when the lady, who was a housekeeper passed out. Things moved by them selves, instruments played etc.. tables shook. Late when they found the guy and worked out the problems the occurences stopped. My ex used to say to me " I know when you miss me" im like how? She said part of my body gets itchy. wait lets just pause here for a second.. im not making this up and I know it sounds Hoaky. That wasnt the only freaky thing between us. One time when broke up I felt ..like a wave of emotions wash over me. That was friggen freaky because it wasnt me. A week late she came back and said how much she missed me. Then there was thing were I lost my wallet.. thats another story for another time. I can only say that the last time I kept seeing her name over and over again 3 or 4 or 10 times a day.. she popped up shortly after.
In Sync Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 Ok, look. it's been wellll over a year. How did you two end things, on good terms. If you two didn't throw hateful words at each other and curse each other to the devil THEN what's keeping you from breaking NC. What's holding you back? Somethings and relationships are meant to be left in the past. With all the coincidences and your feelings there's a hidden meaning...why don't you pick up the phone and call her? Rekindled your relationship. Nature allows us to get past hurtful breakups because otherwise we would lose our minds from every loss we have. Its rather healthy to let go despite the little reminders because it signifies growth. Some people say second chances work, hey if you truly want go for it..but going back and looking at all kinds of signs and coincedences is like looking at my momentos I kept from my school days and thinking maybe I should go back and be in highschool because that was a great time then.
shelters Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 I can only say that the last time I kept seeing her name over and over again 3 or 4 or 10 times a day.. she popped up shortly after. Figure out what you want and then be proactive in your life rather than reactive. If you want this woman, don't sit around waiting for her to contact you or to see enough 'signs' to justify your feelings- or worse, to control your feelings. Life is what you make it.
Author dr strangelove Posted May 17, 2006 Author Posted May 17, 2006 Definitely points to ponder...... while I consider my reply.. check out my "parody" post on second chances.
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