SHortyAnGel Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 [FONT=Arial (W1)]I have just received a call from my MM of about 2 years.[/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)] [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)]We had an arrangement to meet up for his birthday celebration. Lately he has been feeling a abit crook & he said that he might not be able to make it, because if he took it off his W might follow, due to apparently concern for him. Basically I just stayed silent… prior to this conversation I told myself constantly that this is it. IF he broke the plan I was off… game over... [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)]Which of course he broke it! & I feel like crap… I hate the fact I can’t celebrate special events with him & I can’t make over fuss over him. =[[/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)] [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)]I am only 24 & shouldn’t have to go through this... I don’t understand myself anymore… I don’t know what I want anymore… I HATE IT! [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)] [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)]In order to do NC. Do I need to tell him?? Or can I just do it... does it have the same effect? [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)]Not once have we spoken abt him leaving the W. I know that he is scared of family reputation & things as we are of the same culture…. It goes the same with me….what ever damages him will damage me.[/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)] [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)]The weird thing is that he came back to my AFTER getting caught. After 5 months of NC. I was doing well… promoted & rekindling lost friendship. I just don’t know where to turn to…[/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)] [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)]I asked him why he was back he simply said … he missed me… & he doesn’t know. Where the hell does that take me???? =[[/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)] [/FONT] [FONT=Arial (W1)]I don’t know where to turn too anymore… [/FONT]
rossm Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 In order to do NC. Do I need to tell him?? Or can I just do it... does it have the same effect? Well, it depends. If you are still on good terms with him, it is probably a good idea to tell him, and explain why. Think, if you were him, would you want to know? Don't expect that he will necessarily take it well. In the alternative scenario, where you don't tell him, he won't know that NC is what you want, and it is likely that he will keep showing up and/or contacting you.
Guitar Wizard Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 Lets see here... No, you don't need to tell him that your not going to talk to him anymore. Unless of course your still in grade school. And, he's married. I understand your all "Upset" that this guy can't break away from his WIFE enough to meet all of your needs. I mean, that WIFE must really get in your way, no? *Cough* Uhh, anyway. Yeah, your best bet would be to stop talking to this cheating douchebag and find a man that doesn't have a ring on his finger.
Author SHortyAnGel Posted May 16, 2006 Author Posted May 16, 2006 He is tryn to get me to change my day off... so we can see each other. i refused... i just can't go by his time all the time... it took me over a month to get that day off.. & nofin... i think on that day ill deal w/ me & get myself pampered... =] havent done that in a long time...kinda looking forward to it!... Yes, i know his has a W. to be honest i do not feel any negative vibes towards her...heck! we dont even talk abt her, I guess i am now starting to feel the back seat blues.. & getting tired of it... I will be doing NC. I acutally got my friend to get me a new sim card for my phone. ( although i have done this b4 & he found me still). I have reached my limit... the funny thing is that w/ me when it comes to guys b4 i didnt care... ill see 2 or 3 guys w/o any commitments... bear in mind i do not sleep w/ anyone of them... it was just for fun basis... its different w/ this MM.. why? i dont know... I just need some strength... =] hope ill be fine...
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