Guest Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 Girlfriend and I had a very very close relationship. She wrote cards to me with the most wonderful meanings in them. We had a 2-3 week rough period. Thought we had basically finally sorted it out. Then she just went funny. I've found out she'd met someone. They must have clicked damn well, coz I don't otherwise comprehenjd how she could change over to him so fast. Even after we split she sent me messages saying she missed me. That eventually stopped. I found out about the new boy by talking to friends, and then just the other day I saw them together. I confronted her, expressed my dissapointment and walked away. I decided, I didn't want to end up hating her and wanted to keep my door open as a friend, so wrote her a card expressing just that, and good luck in life etc. She then responded by saying "don't ever contact me again!" I'm broken, feel kicked in the teeth. I fail so much to understand this. She is SUCH a lovely girl full of morals and so lovely natured. This just isn't how I know her. I was kind of hoping for a "sorry it ended this way and thanks for the card. I wont be contacting her again, not for many many months anyway. Can't love someone that has been so nasty. Can anyone help me understand why she has switched to being this horrible person to me? PS: the morning before i caught her with the new guy, out of the blue (hadn't talked in a week as weren't supposed to be) she sent me a phone message saying "have you heard the song by James Blunt, Goodbye my lover, its just like what we've been through" What the hell?!?!?! Confused. Just want to move on but can't stop thinkin about it coz I cannot understand the fast change from loving me so much to jumpin in the deep end with another guy. Also, does she mean the bad words she says? help ) :
feistybutloving Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 Leave her alone let it go there are plenty of fish in the sea. Why set yourself up for heartache. It sounds like you didn't see it coming bamm it just hit ya. Can she ever be trusted? Go out with your friends enjoy yourself. Go on a few dates move on remember true love comes around once in a life time. Be strong everything will be ok. What you and her had was lust not love! Love don't hurt. Remember looks are deceiving what you see isn't what you always get.
Guest Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 What you and her had was lust not love! Love don't hurt. Remember looks are deceiving what you see isn't what you always get. Nope, sorry I have to dissagree, I'm 27 yrs old, had plenty of relationships before. We were both IN LOVE. We could do just anything together for hours and hours. She has come from a bad background, where her mum had an affair and left when she was a teenager. She disowned her mother basically for a few years while her father brought her up on his own. Now she stays at her mums and hangs out with her all the time. I know her mum can't tell her what she has done is wrong and because she's bin there. It justifies to her daughter what SHE did. Thats part of the problem. Another reason it was def love,.. she took so long to break up with me and was SO upset about it. She wld decide to do it and then change her mind. She was a mess. Eventually she decided to make a decision once and for all and stick to it for the both of us. Even after this she was a mess. And in the middle of this mess this bastard came along . He was breaking up in a relationship too and they obviously connected. She's seeing him now, and just telling me not to ever contact her. I can't even send a friendly group email to my friends with her included as a reciever. Trust me, she is known for her lovely nature and her strong morals. She learnt alot about what not to never do from her mothers behaviour. She was disgsted with her. Now she's being influenced by her and her flat mates who have never liked me from the start because of jealousy. She was SO upset with breaking up. Why has she become so horrible towards me. Its not her I'm telling you. Really hurts. I'm currently just giving her NO CONTACT at the moment. I think I'll ring her on her 21st in 2 1/2 months. What do you think.
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