barfool Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Wow, I've been gone from here for a while. Here is a nice general question for you guys. You've probably heard the saying in my title meaning that if you give in to carnal desires and have casual sex with a guy that he won't respect you. Is there truth to this? If you hung out with a girl who was fun and end up having sex with her do you immediately strike her as a possibility for actual dating and such? Is she relegated to the class of booty call from which she can never escape? These questions are applicable for either sex. What do you think?
blind_otter Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Almost all the longterm relationships I had started out with a bang, so to speak. alllmost. I yam what I yam, as popeye said. I can't apologize for being horney and wanting to f***, in a safe, no fluid exchange involved manner. Come to think of it I never thought any less of those guys, either. It's personal preference tho. I'm sure responses will be across the board. But I also realize that ALL of those relationships I've had - that begin with a bang - I was hanging out without intentions of starting a relationship. I was just having fun, we ended up having fun together, and ened up in a relationship that wasn't premeditated. That response was all over the place. I've missed your posts!
tinktronik Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I don't take sex all that seriously in the first place. So, I would say that I respect the guy if I had respect with him in the first place and don't if I didn't . I don't really know if I've ever been in a relationship that was clearly defined before I had sex with that person , how do you do that?
a4a Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I don't really know if I've ever been in a relationship that was clearly defined before I had sex with that person , how do you do that? stay a virgin until you are married
laRubiaBonita Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 i used to not really care, and if a guy is f-cking hott, then yes i may just f-ck him. but if i really like a guy, i will usually wait.....though waiting just means no penetration.
alphamale Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Is there truth to this? yes...all the women I had sex with quickly (ONS, 1st date, 2nd date, 3rd date) turned into short term relationships based upon sex. Not that there is anything wrong with that. why? what did you do BARFOOL? Did you give it up too quick? REmember its a man's job to try to get sex as quickly as possible and a woman's job to hold off as long as possible.
tinktronik Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 stay a virgin until you are married No Thanks, thats just setting yourself up for dissapointment. I can see it now .Im in my white dress , anticipation fills the room , my beefcake new hubby comes in in his tux and begins undressing ...first the tie ect. ect. then Tink sees IT ...The vienna sausage weiner and begins to sob.......end story .
alphamale Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 .....though waiting just means no penetration. which orifice are we talking here LRB?
laRubiaBonita Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 which orifice are we talking here LRB? the one that calculates virginity!
IWalkAlone Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 If you have sex right away, it may not lead to an LTR. If you don't have sex right away, it may not lead to an LTR. If having sex with someone too soon makes you somehow cheapened or used, does that not also make HIM cheapened and used? After all, he slept with you too! If you have sex right away, and he doesn't want a relationship, he wouldn't want a relationship even if you made him wait 5 dates before having sex (although he might wait up to 5 dates to have sex with you if you're hot). The bottom line is that if you're comfortable having sex with him, enjoy it. If it leads to a LTR, great, if not, then hopefully it was good sex.
blind_otter Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 No Thanks, thats just setting yourself up for dissapointment. I can see it now .Im in my white dress , anticipation fills the room , my beefcake new hubby comes in in his tux and begins undressing ...first the tie ect. ect. then Tink sees IT ...The vienna sausage weiner and begins to sob.......end story . WE all know the guys with pretty faces have the smallest weiners. It's a fact.
tinktronik Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 WE all know the guys with pretty faces have the smallest weiners. It's a fact.Its true , you gotta get the ugly ones for the rockin' time between the sheets . If you want a pretty one you've got to settle for the thin weenis.
alphamale Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 If having sex with someone too soon makes you somehow cheapened or used, does that not also make HIM cheapened and used? um, no....that's not the way it works IWA.... Below are some things a man thinks about after he gets cheap, easy and quick sex. 1) Wow...that was f***ing great! Was she #33 or #34? 2) Damn....I only spent $27 at Applebees and got laid, yeehaa. 3) Sex without the relationship bulls***? What a concept!! 4) She's going into the black book under the "Booty Call" section 5) I wonder if she has any friends who are just as easy? :lmao:
tinktronik Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 um, no....that's not the way it works IWA.... Below are some things a man thinks about after he gets cheap, easy and quick sex. 1) Wow...that was f***ing great! Was she #33 or #34? 2) Damn....I only spent $27 at Applebees and got laid, yeehaa. 3) Sex without the relationship bulls***? What a concept!! 4) She's going into the black book under the "Booty Call" section 5) I wonder if she has any friends who are just as easy? :lmao: This is what women think. 1) Wow , I've never seen such a thin weenis. 2) I wonder if my hair looks long? 3) Please tell me I didn't give him the right number. 4) his friend was kinda cute. 5) Is he ever gonna leave. I love you Alpha.
Pyro Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Wow, I've been gone from here for a while. Here is a nice general question for you guys. You've probably heard the saying in my title meaning that if you give in to carnal desires and have casual sex with a guy that he won't respect you. Is there truth to this? If you hung out with a girl who was fun and end up having sex with her do you immediately strike her as a possibility for actual dating and such? Is she relegated to the class of booty call from which she can never escape? These questions are applicable for either sex. What do you think? Any girl that I would qualify as being a potential GF, I would hold out on the sex for a while. I think that for the most part, a relationship will not develop if sex is involved right away, but anything can happen. All depends on the individuals involved.
STLguy Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I only date women that I respect, and it is impossible for me to respect a woman that gives it up that easily. I'm probably a more unusal guy though, I really don't see the draw toward casual sex, and I like the first time with someone to feel special. It's much more enjoyable for me when I actually feel a connection with the person.
TeaCooler Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Almost all the longterm relationships I had started out with a bang, so to speak. . But I also realize that ALL of those relationships I've had - that begin with a bang - I was hanging out without intentions of starting a relationship. I was just having fun, we ended up having fun together, and ened up in a relationship that wasn't premeditated. me too. me too. i've never had a guy not call me or date me afterward. unless i decided i didn't want to.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 WE all know the guys with pretty faces have the smallest weiners. It's a fact. Are you serious??? I have seen two weenies (not counting those on TV) and the larger and thicker one belongs to the handsome, tall guy..... Well, I was wondering if that was just zebra... (please do tell me if you were only joking. )
IWalkAlone Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 um, no....that's not the way it works IWA.... Below are some things a man thinks about after he gets cheap, easy and quick sex. 1) Wow...that was f***ing great! Was she #33 or #34? 2) Damn....I only spent $27 at Applebees and got laid, yeehaa. 3) Sex without the relationship bulls***? What a concept!! 4) She's going into the black book under the "Booty Call" section 5) I wonder if she has any friends who are just as easy? :lmao: Why can't a woman think the following? 1) Wow...that was f***ing great! Was she #33 or #34? 2) Damn....A free Applebees fajitas and got laid, yeehaa. 3) Sex without the relationship bulls***? What a concept!! 4) He's going into the black book under the "Booty Call" section 5) I wonder if he has any friends who are just as hot?
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 No Thanks, thats just setting yourself up for dissapointment. I can see it now .Im in my white dress , anticipation fills the room , my beefcake new hubby comes in in his tux and begins undressing ...first the tie ect. ect. then Tink sees IT ...The vienna sausage weiner and begins to sob.......end story . LOL that is so true and that would SO suck!! I have nothing against waiting till marriage but what if that does happen? Maybe that's why the divorce rate is so high! LOL
Guest Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 and we all know the hottest girls are the ones messed up in the head
tinktronik Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 and we all know the hottest girls are the ones messed up in the headhaha so true.
Citizen Erased Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 then Tink sees IT ...The vienna sausage weiner and begins to sob.......end story . haha so true. I wonder how all those virgins last century etc felt as alot of them didnt know what sex was and they get that thing shoved in their face their first night as a married couple BTW I love the reference 'vienna sausage weiner'
Author barfool Posted May 16, 2006 Author Posted May 16, 2006 why? what did you do BARFOOL? Did you give it up too quick? REmember its a man's job to try to get sex as quickly as possible and a woman's job to hold off as long as possible. It's not that I try to get sex as quickly as possible it's that if I want it I'll take it. I enjoy the way I live my life but am wondering if I'm also shooting myself in the foot, i.e. no guy will take me seriously. As far as the vienna sausage weiner theory, in my experience it's been the bigger the guy the smaller the member. Maybe that's why he started eating so much in the first place.
starlet Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 It's not that I try to get sex as quickly as possible it's that if I want it I'll take it. I enjoy the way I live my life but am wondering if I'm also shooting myself in the foot, i.e. no guy will take me seriously. I think that's not true - I think people care way less about that now than they ever have before. I'm sure the people that care about that kind of thing are happy about their choices, but I don't think that you must do that or you are doomed to be alone forever or be used sexually or anything. My bf and I had sex on our first date, and well - he's still here, so either he liked me enough to call me again or man, I have some good skills i wouldn't stress. if you're happy, go with it.
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