visotech Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Its been about 5 weeks since we broke up, feels like an eternity of loneliness. All throughout we have kept contact and have still hung out, I thought I was doing pretty well getting over her, and apparently she thought the same. Today she asked me if I would be comfortable, if this guy she met a few weekends ago (when she was visiting her friend out of town), stayed over at her place when he was visiting his grandparents in town. I know she made out with him when she was drunk, and saw him once more after that, and that was devistating enough for me. Now he's visiting her, and potentially staying with her? I know she is no longer mine, and what she does is none of my business. She is the one who broke up with me on the grounds that she fell out of love...thus of course she is going to move on faster. But now that shes told me this I feel like I am back where I was 5 weeks ago, I feel like my heart is broken all over again. I know it would happen eventually that she would start interacting with other guys, but I didn't expect it just yet, and it hurts I feel as if she is moving on, and im left out here alone in the dust. Today is the first time I cryed about it since the first week of the breakup. How can I let her go, I know shes not mine, but it hurts as if she was.
jerbear Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 If the ex is not yours live life your way. New hobby, new skills, a better you. If the ex comes back, you at least have more to offer her. If the ex really moved on, you would have to and found someone else. Be your own best friend. a good line from another poster, In Sync.
Author visotech Posted May 15, 2006 Author Posted May 15, 2006 Is there anything other then TIME that will help me heal...Im still scared of going into total no contact - so far I felt we were working through the breakup and the healing together (shared our feelings of lonliness, fear of uncertainity of the future) by still talking about things and hanging out just as any other friends would. Im not going to see her 10 weeks in the summer, so that is my full no-contact, until then im trying to make things work without resorting to loosing eachothers friendship.
Brittanyjean06 Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Read some books on break ups, I truely feel like time is the only way one can heal from heartbreak. ALOT of time not just several months..
UT_longhorn Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 i think there are 2 paths to healing, one is an active, the other one passive. active healing is when you take action to help yourself heal : going no contact, writing out your feelings, seeing a counselor, working out, etc. passive healing is time..which i believe is the greatest healer. do you know why people on this forum are such big proponents of no contact? because of situations like yours. when the ex starts to do things like your ex is doing...it pushes you backwards in your healing. read the posts of others who maintained contact with their exes and see what happened. it delayed the healing time.
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