Guest Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Last week my fiance told me that this just wasn't going to work out. He was breaking up with me...and over the phone! We have been soooo happy together...I had no idea that this was coming. He told me it was because I had student loan debt, and that it wouldn't be good to start a marriage off that way. His parents agreed with him and he decided to do this. I have been sooo devestated. I can't believe that the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with has done this to me. I have started to feel a little better...I ended up calling and talking to him...we didn't talk about anything realtionship related...we talked online a few times as well...nothing relationship related. I just keep thinking that I can get him to want me back...but I think I know that deep down inside this just can't happen. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do? Should I try and hope that he comes to his senses? Move on? Be friends with him? I just get more confused each time I talk to him.
AnnaJ Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I know this might sound harsh, but to get over a break up go no contact. You're feeling very confused because "it wasn't going to work out" is extreamly vague. Sometimes is easier when they're honest. Stop talking to him over the internet / phone. It's not a plan to get him back, although sometimes the ex does come back via non contact, but don't hope for it because the more you hope, the more you keep holding on. The no contact is for your own self healing, because staying in contact will only make things worse. Let him get on with his life and get on with your own. I know it's hard, and it's easier said than done, but believe me, things do get better... Keep your chin up, Anna J
littlekitty Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 He broke off your engagement because you had a student debt? For no doubt helping yourself to gain qualifications? And that's bad?! And he did it by phone?!! WTF? My advice, go no contact and forget him!! No man who behaves that way is worth your time or trouble. You want to marry someone and then decide their student debt is too large so you won't bother?! That's bull. :mad:
Numbheart Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I'd agree with LK, however, he may just be getting cold-feet / last minute jitters and come to his senses(IF u go NC with him)......if he doesnt, then wave him a big BUH BYE cos he simply aint worth it
a4a Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 oh please get rid of this ass. dumped you over student loans....... hell dumping you because your ass is too wide would have been a more legit reason. I can picture it now....... He is sitting there pondering a reason to tell you for the dump..... hummm I don't want to really hurt her, so no personal remarks....... maybe I could say her car isn't the right color.....nah...... maybe because I am allergic to peanuts and she eats peanuts........nah.......... oh yeah her student loans... that is what I will tell her.... yeah........ thats the ticket. My guess he has somebody else......or is on the verge of it. go nc and move on
vampress1 Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I agree with a4a... student loans? That's not a real reason. Plus he added in the "my parents agree" statement which means "I needed backup for my lame-ass exuse to get out of this engagement". What a loser!! NC is definitely the way to go here... Good luck!
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