Coping with gf and extreme "co-depenedent" children

[suzukiridergs500]

My gf and I have been together for 13 years. We moved away from our hometown, and then moved back to our hometown about 3 years ago. She is the mother of 4 and has 9 grandchildren. I am 37 years old, no children, and my family isn't close-knit. She is 54 and her family is very close knit, and very different from mine.

 

I miss her. We have no time together. There's always people at our house. She's constantly doing things for her family. She doesn't seem to care too much that her family being around all the time has "worn me down".

 

I need some advice on how to cope with this or change it. I'm lonely for her. She is a very confusing person. She recently cheated on me, and has gone back to church since her son spent time in jail.

 

What's going to make me feel better?

[VegasFan]

My gf and I have been together for 13 years. We moved away from our hometown, and then moved back to our hometown about 3 years ago. She is the mother of 4 and has 9 grandchildren. I am 37 years old, no children, and my family isn't close-knit. She is 54 and her family is very close knit, and very different from mine.

 

I miss her. We have no time together. There's always people at our house. She's constantly doing things for her family. She doesn't seem to care too much that her family being around all the time has "worn me down".

 

I need some advice on how to cope with this or change it. I'm lonely for her. She is a very confusing person. She recently cheated on me, and has gone back to church since her son spent time in jail.

 

What's going to make me feel better?

 

 

My wife's family is like that (very tight) and I am like you (not as close to my family as she is to hers), so I know how you feel. You might want to tell her that you need one day (or at least one evening) a week for just the two of you to spend time together. If that doesn't work, then just leave when they come over and you feel like you can't take it; take it as an opportunity to spend some time on yourself.

[feistybutloving]

Your girl needs to open her eyes and wake up before it's too late!

Does she even know what she's doing to you? It sounds like she keeps hurting you. You need to talk to her you can't let her put you through this. She's not meeting you halfway! She needs to be upfront and honest with you then, you'll know were you stand! I understand she has a big loving family and family comes first but your part of her you should be #1! I know your not asking for much, just let her know you fill neglected you want to spend time with her and you love her.

 

 

 

Good Luck!!!!

[RecordProducer]

Take it or leave it! She is a formed person and you can't change her. In a relationship with such an age difference in the "favor" of the woman, she expects to be the boss.