jerbear Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 Sometimes it takes a few bad apples and realization of losing a good guy.
ronnieromance Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 What are you suggesting? I've been a called a nice guy, but women I've been with have said I was pretty good in bed. Unfortunately, new women I meet don't seem to have that impression and there's no good way to tell them. OTOH, I've been told that one of the things that make jerks jerks is that they are only concerned with their own pleasure in bed. Go figure! OK, but I think a lot of women who go for this type of man do so with certain sexual expectations that "nice guys" don't typically fulfill. Not to say you're not good, it's just that some women consider a good lover someone who treats them like a proverbial whore in the bedroom. Some like to have rose petals placed lovingly on the bed. "Nice guys" typically fall into the later category and women who date the leather jacket, motorcycle sterotype often enjoy the prior. You can be a good lover, but not for a certain person. Not everyone plays well with everyone else. -R-
Vertex Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I think sometimes it is a matter of chase. The "jerk" is more elusive and exciting and so girls chase after him, whereas the "nice guy" is more likely to stick around. Girls, in my experience, enjoy chasing after something exciting, and usually "nice guys" have a stereotype of being boring or too easily available. The only problem is that usually it won't be until you've chased and chased before you realize that it's no longer as fulfilling as you once perceived it to be. You can still be a nice guy and screw the hell out of a girl in the bedroom like she was a piece of meat... you can still be a wild mutha
alphamale Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 I think sometimes it is a matter of chase. The "jerk" is more elusive and exciting and so girls chase after him, whereas the "nice guy" is more likely to stick around. Girls, in my experience, enjoy chasing after something exciting, and usually "nice guys" have a stereotype of being boring or too easily available. less supply = more demand....look it up in any basic business school textbook.
Vertex Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 alpha: Yup. The more and more you have of something, the smaller and smaller marginal benefit becomes. Sure, that first slice of pizza might taste amazing, but after the 5th slice, you don't feel the same BANG that you did with the first. Unfortunately I hate this idea. It makes me feel as if relationships are about holding back in order to keep people coming back for more. How can we let ourselves go and fall in deeply without getting f***ed up (in a bad way that is)?
ronnieromance Posted May 16, 2006 Posted May 16, 2006 See, that's the trick, isn't it. We find ways to overly simplify things that are complex and overly complicate things that are simple. We are animals. Perhaps more rational than other animals, but our biological drives and impulses are dictated by evolution and gentics at least as much as by the preference created by conditioning and society. We enjoy a challenge...the chase as it were. Without it we get bored. Just like pretty much any other animal in the world. -R-
Whitt Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 There are lots of guys who do it to girls, too. At least she willing to admit she made that mistakes and is hurting this guy.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2006 Author Posted May 17, 2006 Who said I'm hurting him?????? I'm not.
Whitt Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 Well, I guess I read your post wrong. I was just trying to point out that you do care about how he feels to those that think you don't.
TeaCooler Posted May 17, 2006 Posted May 17, 2006 "its like you find the 1 guy in like a billion who isn't a dick and it's like ALL his other qualities don't even matter because it's like "wait... you're NOT a dickhead??? I don't CARE if you have 3 arms and 1 eye!!! YOU'RE MINE!!!!!!!" one of my friends IMed me this a long time ago and i saved it...it seemed appropriate here somehow.
MrDarcy Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 This K guy reminds me of me sometimes. I guess he believes there's something good in everyone, and ends up being taken advantage of. He should learn to put his foot down and stay away from people like you. There's one thing you and all the other girls out there got to realize: You can't have it all. I hope this K guy learns what's good for him.
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