PeanutHead88 Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 and I don't meen them coming back a week later, but a lengthy amount of time months, or even years I am curious to know!!
riobikini Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 Almost every person from my past significant relationships has sought a re-connection in some way, somewhere down the road. Some, even after a surprising toll of years. Unfortunately, for them -my memory hasn't suffered any loss of retention skills, and I always make that fact unmistakeably clear. You see, if I experience a relationship that ends, I store the details as lessons, and keep what I learn from them as 'Preventative Pain Medication'. Except for a persistent (or daft) few, they 'get it', and do not try any further contact. And, for me, -that's exactly how I want it. -Rio
agnf666 Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 Usually everyone in my past stays exactly that in my past. I mean If I really wanted to go see my ex then I can do it. Since he got a new job at a local gas statin to my house, but I decided to stay away from the whole thing. Sometimes it's better just to let go even if you really liked or loved that person. If they hurt you once they will most likely do it agian!
Numbheart Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 Almost every person from my past significant relationships has sought a re-connection in some way, somewhere down the road. Some, even after a surprising toll of years. Unfortunately, for them -my memory hasn't suffered any loss of retention skills, and I always make that fact unmistakeably clear. You see, if I experience a relationship that ends, I store the details as lessons, and keep what I learn from them as 'Preventative Pain Medication'. Except for a persistent (or daft) few, they 'get it', and do not try any further contact. And, for me, -that's exactly how I want it. -Rio Rio, from that, does that mean that you hold things against each and every one of them for whatever they did wrong?
riobikini Posted May 14, 2006 Posted May 14, 2006 NH: " Rio, from that, does that mean that you hold things against each and every one of them for whatever they did wrong?" Not necessarily, in my view. But it has been my *learned* experience that, when playing with fire, -one normally gets burned. -Rio
shelters Posted May 14, 2006 Posted May 14, 2006 I posted this somewhere else already but I know of a couple who spent two years apart. Both went to counseling on their own to work through childhood issues that they were bringing into their adult relationships. Neither had intentions of getting back together with the other although that is what happened. They are now married 30 something years, extremely happy, act like newlyweds- and know what life was like without the other so they don't take even one day for granted. Both speak of how much work & commitment is involved in a good marriage. Both 'walk the talk.'
KittenMoon Posted May 14, 2006 Posted May 14, 2006 My mother has been consoling me with the story of our family friends. They were engaged- he left for greener pastures, then she pulled herself up and began dating someone else, eventually he came back, she turned him away that time, but finally they got back together. Married many years, two beautiful children, happy as clams.
jerbear Posted May 14, 2006 Posted May 14, 2006 I had a few come back, who knows what the future holds. One came back after her divorce and sought contact with me. I didn't want her when she came back. Not into a instant family. She just called out of the blue.
dr strangelove Posted May 14, 2006 Posted May 14, 2006 This current ex that I have, came back once already. It was for a period of 6 long weeks. No contact whatsoever. I didnt think I would see her again, there she was walking by my place like it was no big deal. She somehow managed to flip it around like it was all my idea to get back together. Took a long while to actually get her to hang out in person. Then when it did happen, we were back together by the morning. Some how I feel like she will be back around again. I have to be honest about an observation about her.. I used to think to myself, wow she really is kind of a mess. After dating other women, since her I realize she really wasnt that bad at all. I guess at times you think you want perfect, now I realize imperfect is more desireable to me. In any case there was another ex that came back. One day after many years she just appeared at my place of bussiness and somehow one thing lead to another and she had feelings for me again. I had no interest in that and told her so. She came back aroudn a few more times, one of the last ended in a big fight. I havent seen her since.
westernxer Posted May 14, 2006 Posted May 14, 2006 Exes are weird, unpredictable creatures... I stay away from them the way I'd stay away from sharks, even if they're swimming outside my window.
chocolate_boy Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I think generally guys are likely to come back to an ex at some point in some way. Women on the other hand are usually more restraint, its rare for women to look up exes I think, I've not really had any "come back"
Brittanyjean06 Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Maybe some guys are just dumbfounded and believe that a year later in contacting their ex is just like a week lol jk
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