typical Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 In a serious relationship, when you gauge actions of your BF/GF, how do you know when things are about to take a nose dive? How and when do you know to bow out gracefully? Barring the obvious, ie cheating, abuse and the like. How do you avoid being the "fluff" and "filler" the "this one is good until the right one comes along" person? How do you know if you are that person already?? Just curious.
Walk Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 Not quite sure what you mean... like when do you know when they're basically done with you and just waiting for the next to come along? Or all of the various shades in between "happy in love" and "gone"?
JadeStar Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 "How and when do you know to bow out gracefully?" I would say after you have tried everything there is to try to make things work. If you feel you have given your 100 percent into a relationship, and tried everything you know and things are still not working, then its probably time to call it quits. Jade
a4a Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 Signs to Leave: 1. when you hate the way chew their food and you feel tempted to stab them with the fork or spoon they are using. 2. when you ponder the thought of backing over them with your car, even if it is for just a split second or two. 3. when you roll your eyes and shake your head when they speak to you. 4. when you are alone and just start yelling at them even though they are not near you. 5. when you make dental appointments for a root canal that you do not need to escape spending time with them. 6. For women: when you decide that shaving your armpits and legs is doing him a favor and you toss out your razor. 7. when you ponder the idea of making special brownies for them using ex lax as the secret ingredient. 8. when you can sit back and reflect about when you had a great relationship. 9. when you do get alone you feel relieved to be out of his/her clutches. 10. when your SO is telling you about their day or a important event in their life and you start to wonder what would happen if Barney Fife had access to a Tazer and ignore what they are telling you.
Author typical Posted May 15, 2006 Author Posted May 15, 2006 4. when you are alone and just start yelling at them even though they are not near you. :lmao: Actually, I have been doing this quite a bit lately... What do you guys think about the "fluff" I was talking about??? Did any of you get the eerie feeling that you were the fluff before???
blind_otter Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I've definately been with fluff, my love. I've probably been fluff, too, and historically I don't react well when I discover this. I try to take them as they come, but then again, my relationship history is crap!. Don't listen to me.
a4a Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I am currently the fluff If I am not the fluff then he must be my fluff. All of the 10 signs in my post are from personal experience I think you know if there is fluffing when you feel detached from the relationship. If they were so into you and not making you the fluff would you not still be attached to them. You are with a person because the way they make you feel. When you no longer get the input from them and you feel detached they probably are just using you as fluff. #6 I thought about doing.... but I shave for me.
Author typical Posted May 15, 2006 Author Posted May 15, 2006 I have decided to add to the list... 11. When they tell you they love you, your stomach clinches up, you roll your eyes, and your first thought is "yeah right...dont bother"
a4a Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 I have decided to add to the list... 11. When they tell you they love you, your stomach clinches up, you roll your eyes, and your first thought is "yeah right...dont bother" How did I miss that ^ one! 12. you tell them you "forgot" to brush your teeth so a kiss is out of the question
a4a Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 13. You consider signing your SO up with a online dating service just to quicken up the process of getting rid of them.
JadeStar Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 13. You consider signing your SO up with a online dating service just to quicken up the process of getting rid of them. :lmao:
Author typical Posted May 15, 2006 Author Posted May 15, 2006 12. you tell them you "forgot" to brush your teeth so a kiss is out of the question :lmao: I promise...I HAVE DONE THIS ONE BEFORE!!!!!
Author typical Posted May 15, 2006 Author Posted May 15, 2006 and it doesnt help matters when...oh gawd help me...I am being inexplicably drawn to this man that is trying to draw me into his itoxicating web of passion.....I am trying to be strong about it..really I am...but does he really have to smile at me with the most devestating smile in the world?? I mean, one shouldnt toss those smiles around as casually as he does...
a4a Posted May 15, 2006 Posted May 15, 2006 and it doesnt help matters when...oh gawd help me...I am being inexplicably drawn to this man that is trying to draw me into his itoxicating web of passion.....I am trying to be strong about it..really I am...but does he really have to smile at me with the most devestating smile in the world?? I mean, one shouldnt toss those smiles around as casually as he does... well don't forget to brush your teeth for him See I came up with the list without outside influences. Maybe the hot new guy is making you think the original is shabby?
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