gracelessemu Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 My wife has a male friend of over 15 years. They met when he was a dj at a club she attended. They had a sexual encounter and decided they were better as friends. She eventually married another man and after 9 yrs they divorced. Her friend was there to help her with money for a place and they had another sexual encounter. We have been together for 5 years now. I have a bit of a problem with her friend, because i see him as an opportunist or vulture just waiting for her to be vulnerable. She says he's only her friend and nothing more. I don't even suspect she would ever cheat, it is not in her nature and I trust her. Im just don't believe he is her friend for real. Am I crazy? Any thoughts opinions? What would you do/say? Thanks Gracelessemu
gfto Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 Did you know, before you married her, about her friendship with this guy and the fact that they've done the deed? Or, did you only find out after you said, "I do"?
Author gracelessemu Posted May 15, 2006 Author Posted May 15, 2006 I knew about him and that they had "done the deed" prior to getting married. In the last 5 years they've only went out for lunch a couple times. I believe she is his friend, I don't believe he feels the same way that they are "friends". I believe he's an opportunist and probably has a lot of "friends" like my wife. Waiting for vulnerable moments. as an addition: we ran in to this guy on the weekend. she gives him a hug and kiss on the lips. I suggested that she not kiss him anymore if she really wants me to view this guy as her friend and nothing else. She said I was being silly because she kisses everyone. I think it just keeps him waiting.
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