PuppyDogEyes Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 personally, I would never give my girlfriend any of this crap. No pin number, no passwords, no credit cards.....nothing. That's my own s***. If I did every marry again (which is highly unlikely) I would not even have a joint checking account. I am so in agreement with you on this. I got married, foolishly trusted my XH with my financial records, and got burned badly. From now on, my finances are mine, "trust" be damned. - pde.
Alexandra Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Okay thanks a bunch everyone for the paranoia dose, just spent an hour changing all my email passwords:lmao:
tallbrunettmom Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I think this whole ..."if you trust eachother"..thing is being really naive. It's been my experinec if you have something to hide then you are secretive. I'm not saying you should have Magnum P.I. following your significant other. But knowing eachothers business and being open and honest is what makes a strong relationship. What's the big deal of passwords or pin numbers. If you cant trust they won't steal from you or mess with your emails then why would you trust them if you don't know this stuff? See....its a vicious cycle. Like I said...the more you know the less chance of issues...if you have to have your privacy live alone and don't agree to share your life with someone.
Walk Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I have my bf's email password and pin number. I was really surprised about the pin number. He got burned bad by a number of women financially. I've never felt the need to "snoop" into his email. Never occured to me.
blind_otter Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Oh, I'm not saying that he has it - he doesn't. Nor do I have his, and don't particularly want it. I'm just saying for myself that if he asked for it, I wouldn't make an issue out of giving it to him. I guess that I'd be suspicious if one asked the other and they made a federal case out of it. "What do you want to know that for?" That would raise my heckles up just enough to want to find out why they're reacting that way.... - pde. I had an exBF go into my email account and change the password just to be a dick. HE would go online as me and talk to my friends and say bizarre stuff like "I'm pregnant with the christ child." of course everyone who knows me just thought I was being loopy again, or on some new drug.
Tim'sAngel Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I am so in agreement with you on this. I got married, foolishly trusted my XH with my financial records, and got burned badly. From now on, my finances are mine, "trust" be damned. - pde. No offence to anyone, but if u can't trust the one u married w/those kinda of things, (not saying you have to give out all ur info) then um, why the hell be with them in the first place?
blind_otter Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I don't blend my finances because it makes me too anxious. I don't like other people spending my money and I don't want to spend other people's money. Even if it's my SO's money. I don't consider it mine unless I earn it. JMO.
Art_Critic Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I don't consider it mine unless I earn it. JMO. Oh.. when we are married you will earn it...
blind_otter Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Oh.. when we are married you will earn it... I thought you were going to hire me as your ball polisher so I could feel like I earned my own income, dammit! I'm so upset I let a sandwich eat our baby.
Art_Critic Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I thought you were going to hire me as your ball polisher so I could feel like I earned my own income, dammit! The postion is still open.. We never did talk about terms.. " Get on your knees "
Art_Critic Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 By the way.. email passwords should be private.. on both sides.. if you can't trust one another then there are problems.. During my 5 year marriage I never once looked at my then wifes cell phone or email.. Trust.. Of course she also never hid them from me either.. had she I might've thought she was hiding something and maybe sought out looking at her calls or emails But with that being said I don't think you should TRY and hide the passwords or keep changing them if they find them out.. Then I think you show distrust for no reason
blind_otter Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I make up nonsense words that only I remember for my passwords. snoobledefroogen. most of them sound dutch for some reason. glochenbloocken. maybe I'm the reincarnation of the swedish chef. Freebledeglock.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 If your SO is stupid enough to use the same password for his email as he does when he signs up for porn websites then you can find it pretty easily by googling his user IDs or his email address. For some reason those sites must be easy to crack, or the webmasters sell the passwords, because lists are swarming all over the internet.
Mary3 Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 No, that is out of range. I would never ask my boyfriend, if given one, for his e-mail password. And, vice versa. That's not the way my world works. If that's the case for some people, then truely they need to keep themselves occupied with more important things. I agree 100% . I never asked for his. He never asked for mine. I don't see where its necessary to create a distrust factor where you need to read their email to assure yourself that they are not doing something wrong. Trust them. They trust you. Nothing else works but trust.
Mary3 Posted May 13, 2006 Posted May 13, 2006 I think this whole ..."if you trust eachother"..thing is being really naive. It's been my experinec if you have something to hide then you are secretive. I'm not saying you should have Magnum P.I. following your significant other. But knowing eachothers business and being open and honest is what makes a strong relationship. What's the big deal of passwords or pin numbers. If you cant trust they won't steal from you or mess with your emails then why would you trust them if you don't know this stuff? See....its a vicious cycle. Like I said...the more you know the less chance of issues...if you have to have your privacy live alone and don't agree to share your life with someone. Trust with fidelity is one matter. Never worried about that kind of trust. But trust with your financial nest egg is another. I never had joint accounts when married , never had his PIN number ( Oh, wait it was his birthdate # but still I never used or tapped into his account ) . He never knew mine. Trusting someone with everything you own is just scarey with the high divorce rates. I just don't think I could trust someone in the financial sense not to ruin my life overnight by getting pissed off and draining the account. Thats a personal choice
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