MadDog Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 So I've noticed that a lot of people seem to get their SO's e-mail passwords. Am I one of the few who thinks this is somewhat crazy? If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't dream of asking her for her e-mail password. I mean, why would I ever need it? Is it a way of proving to an insecure girlfriend/boyfriend that you have nothing to hide? That notion is ridiculous too because you could always just have another e-mail account. I just don't see how you even bring up e-mail passwords. If I were dating a girl and she asked me for my e-mail password, I think I'd have to hit the eject button right on the spot. It's not that I have anything to hide but I just find it pretty weird and objectionable.
jerbear Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I wouldn't hit eject or even give it to her. There are accounts that she can not have access due to legal restrictions.
Sand&Water Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 So I've noticed that a lot of people seem to get their SO's e-mail passwords. Am I one of the few who thinks this is somewhat crazy? If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't dream of asking her for her e-mail password. No, that is out of range. I would never ask my boyfriend, if given one, for his e-mail password. And, vice versa. That's not the way my world works. If that's the case for some people, then truely they need to keep themselves occupied with more important things.
tikigods Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Since I have just a few passwords my husband knows what mine are just cause I tell them to him constantly when he might set up a new account or get into something for me. My husband has one password that he has never told anyone, he only uses it when he needs to make sure no one can get to an important document or something. I never ask for it and don't feel the need to know what "OMG SECRETS!!!". If I need to get into something like our Netflix account, he is more then happy to tell me his password, but I would never ask for anything that wasn't meant for both of us. I agree its insane to have a password for eachothers mail, an't people have a little bit of privacy?
Tim'sAngel Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Anyone who asks for a password is either insecure or suspicious. Although, when me and SO first started our relationship, and I was still living w/my mother 2 hours away, I was down here staying w/him one weekend and he was letting me borrow his laptop. He had his AIM set up to autimatically save his password and sign on when he booted it up. I was sitting next to him while he was doing something for me on the laptop and he went into AIM to turn off the "sign on autimatically" thing, but then he quickly erased his password and clicked the "save password" thing to turn that option off, and it made me slightly curious as to why he did that. I think maybe for some people its the sheer curiosity. Kind of like when you enter a room and someone minimizes whatever they were doing. Human nature just wants to know what and why. I would never ask SO for a password unless it was something we were sharing
Pantero Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Yeah, I've gotta agree with Mad Dog. This reminds me of a funny story, actually. This friend of mine started seeing some guy awhile back. Things were going fine until one day he gives her his email PW...!!! That's right, folks - just volunteers it right out of the blue. Turns out his PW was another girl's name...this other girl was this dude's ex and he was still obsessing over her. The red flag didn't just go up; it took off like a rocket. Needless to say she dropped him like a bad habit. Not to mention AIM convos she saw between him and his ex. Of course, once you get a chance to crack someone's safe, you'll want to take a look at what's inside. People are strange. Throw stones at them.
littlekitty Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I don't have his, or want them. And he doesn't have mine, or want them! We both have our own work accounts which we obviously can't give our network logins out for - we'd loose our jobs. And we both have hotmail accounts for personal use. It's a trust thing. We're adults. I trust him not be doing anything stupid, or to hurt me. And I respect his right to 'some' privacy, and my own.
maxima888 Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I think if you ever wanted the 'check' up on your other halfs e-mails its just all come down to being insecure and that you have no trust in him/her. It makes you one controling person also... Its as simple as that...
scobro Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 When My wife and I separated I figured out her password it was the make of her car...Sunfire:rolleyes: Took me like 5 minutes to figure it out.Then it took me another 5 min of reading e-mails to realise she was seeing another guy for dinner and drinks etc etc...Now she is my ex wife:D
a4a Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I have all my H's passwords..... he gave them to me freely to handle any incoming work or personal business. We actually have a book of passwords here for all online accts. No big deal. Nothing to hide really except I do not flaunt my postings on LS to him...... However he did read some posts and thinks a handful of you are just nut cases!
glittergurl Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 It's definitely not something you ask for. I mean, you just guess it and try
alphamale Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 If I were dating a girl and she asked me for my e-mail password, I think I'd have to hit the eject button right on the spot. I agree MD....but what would you do if she asked for your ATM pin # and your card to get some $$?
jerbear Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 However he did read some posts and thinks a handful of you are just nut cases! Hey, Am I a nut case? We're all nut cases, Nut cases, oh yeah! We're all nut cases, Nut cases, oh yeah! :D
bumbaclot Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 Hells no! I work online. Email privacy is as important as my bank account.
Author MadDog Posted May 12, 2006 Author Posted May 12, 2006 I agree MD....but what would you do if she asked for your ATM pin # and your card to get some $$? I'd just give her cash from my wallet. The only thing that makes you feel like more of a pimp than handing your woman cash is getting cash from her.
Tim'sAngel Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I agree MD....but what would you do if she asked for your ATM pin # and your card to get some $$? I have SO's pin# but he gave it to me because I do most of the shopping and errand running. I guess he figures he'd rather trust me with it rather than having to do the errands himself He offered it to me, I would have never asked!!
catgirl1927 Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I have my BF's and he has mine, but only because he needed me to check for a work email one time when he was out of town and couldn't get to a computer. He has mine because it's obvious and because I bought him tickets as a gift one time and he had to print them out at work because he was going straight there and I didn't want to print them out and drive all the way across town to give them to him. I don't snoop, though, and I don't think he does either.
Alexandra Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I agree MD....but what would you do if she asked for your ATM pin # and your card to get some $$? Ummm do you guys mean there ARE women who don't have the card and the pin?!? As for the email passwords.... let's just say in a fantasy world I'd like to have all of his and for him to have none of mine. Since that sounds rather improbable for now we know the not-very-personal ones (LJ accounts or memberships on sites that we may both use or that one set up for the both of us) and we don't know nor will we ever know each other's main email password.
PuppyDogEyes Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 It doesn't bother me if my BF has my Email password or not, he pretty much knows everything I do, anyway. I have his password to get onto his laptop when I'm not home to use my own computer, but his Email password? No. It automatically signs onto MSN and other IM services, but we have mostly mutual friends and acquaintances, such as it is. I feel that if you can't trust the person that you're with, you don't have much of a relationship, anyway. - pde.
laRubiaBonita Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 So I've noticed that a lot of people seem to get their SO's e-mail passwords. Am I one of the few who thinks this is somewhat crazy? If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't dream of asking her for her e-mail password. I mean, why would I ever need it? Is it a way of proving to an insecure girlfriend/boyfriend that you have nothing to hide? That notion is ridiculous too because you could always just have another e-mail account. I just don't see how you even bring up e-mail passwords. If I were dating a girl and she asked me for my e-mail password, I think I'd have to hit the eject button right on the spot. It's not that I have anything to hide but I just find it pretty weird and objectionable. my xbf gave me his password, i would check his emails when he was away from a computer and i would order stuff for him. he is the stupid idiot that i think wanted me to find about about his online EA's.... it was the same password with a 1 on the end...... come on!
blind_otter Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 It doesn't bother me if my BF has my Email password or not, he pretty much knows everything I do, anyway. I have his password to get onto his laptop when I'm not home to use my own computer, but his Email password? No. It automatically signs onto MSN and other IM services, but we have mostly mutual friends and acquaintances, such as it is. I feel that if you can't trust the person that you're with, you don't have much of a relationship, anyway. - pde. I feel that, if my SO feels the need to have my passwords, then he obviously doesn't trust me. Which means we wouldn't have much of a relationship anyways.
Art_Critic Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 my xbf gave me his password, i would check his emails when he was away from a computer and i would order stuff for him. he is the stupid idiot that i think wanted me to find about about his online EA's.... it was the same password with a 1 on the end...... come on! something tells me that after the wall marker incident that he changed all of his passwords .. probably before he went out and bought the paint to repaint the walls
alphamale Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 personally, I would never give my girlfriend any of this crap. No pin number, no passwords, no credit cards.....nothing. That's my own s***. If I did every marry again (which is highly unlikely) I would not even have a joint checking account.
PuppyDogEyes Posted May 12, 2006 Posted May 12, 2006 I feel that, if my SO feels the need to have my passwords, then he obviously doesn't trust me. Which means we wouldn't have much of a relationship anyways. Oh, I'm not saying that he has it - he doesn't. Nor do I have his, and don't particularly want it. I'm just saying for myself that if he asked for it, I wouldn't make an issue out of giving it to him. I guess that I'd be suspicious if one asked the other and they made a federal case out of it. "What do you want to know that for?" That would raise my heckles up just enough to want to find out why they're reacting that way.... - pde.
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